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  • One of the most subtly hurtful and quietly damning of all remarks, perhaps quietly and

    你可能聽過一種說法,很巧妙地會讓你默默感到受傷、心痛,可能在

  • sweetly delivered on the doorstep at the end of a long evening, with the taxi still hovering

    度過一個漫長的傍晚後,陪對方到了家門口,靜默中瀰漫著甜蜜的氣息,計程車還在

  • somewhere just out of sight, is the suggestion that we should in the end probably remain

    看不見的某處徘徊著,這時對方卻給了我們一個暗示,或許最後我們就該

  • 'just good friends'. We know exactly what to understand by this. The path towards a

    「只是好朋友吧」。我們清楚地知道這是什麼意思。就這樣輕輕地但卻堅決地

  • tender future is being gently but firmly closed off. We are, with a smile, being shunted into

    封閉了一條通往美好未來的道路。我們被歸類為失敗者、邊緣人,甚至是

  • the category of the failed, the ignored and the lightly despised. The other must in some

    有點被瞧不起的,但我們也只能一笑而過。另外一方一定多少也看出了一些

  • way have worked out the despicable truths about usall the ones that we tried so

    我們較卑劣的一面—儘管我們多努力想去掩飾

  • hard to disguise and even to believe didn't existand has logically decided to take

    甚至去說服自己那一面根本不存在—而就邏輯上來說,他們也決定要

  • their leave. We return crushed to an apartment which we had left with butterflies and elevated

    離去。我們帶著碎了一地的心回到家,想起幾個小時前,我們還滿心充斥著期待

  • hopes only a few hours before. We hear the invitation to a friendship as synonymous with

    和高漲的期望準備出門。我們直接把這份友誼的邀約看作是一種

  • insult because our Romantic culture has continuously, and from a young age, made one thing sharply

    侮辱,因為在我們的愛情文化裡,打從我們小時候,就一直和我們

  • clear to us: love is the purpose of existence; friendship is the paltry, depleted consolation

    強調一件事:愛情是我們存在的目的;而友情則是毫無價值、遭人唾棄的

  • prize. Though this seems like unsurprising common sense, what should detain us and encourage

    安慰獎。雖然這看似理所當然的常識,但能讓我們停下腳步而促使我們去

  • us to probe a little at the claims made on love's behalf is one basic source of evidence:

    探究人們對愛情的一些論點,是一個很基本的證據來源:

  • the behaviour, level of satisfaction and state of mind of lovers themselves. If we were to

    行為、滿意度以及戀人雙方的心態。如果我們只根據愛情對我們影響、讓我們流淚的

  • judge love chiefly by its impact, by the extent of the tears, the depths of the frustrations,

    多寡、使我們沮喪的程度,或是它本身可能對我們產生的惡意侮辱,

  • the viciousness of the insults that unfold in its name, we would not continue to rate

    來去評斷愛情,我們可能就不會再給愛情這麼高的評價

  • it as we do and might indeed mistake it for a form of illness or aberration of the mind.

    而且甚至會將之誤解為一種心理疾病或是心理失常

  • The scenes that typically unfold between lovers would scarcely be considered imaginable outside

    那些情侶間才會有的浪漫場景已經少得無法想像,尤其是在這種

  • of conditions of open hostility. Those we love, we honour with our worst moods, our

    不宣而戰的狀況下。對於我們深愛的人,我們反而把最差的情緒、

  • most unfair accusations, our most wounding insults. It is to our lovers that we direct

    最不公的控訴,還有最傷人的侮辱都發洩到他們身上。我們反倒直接把所有

  • blame for everything that has gone wrong in our lives, it is they we expect to know everything

    生命中的不順遂怪罪到我們愛的人頭上,只因為我們期望即使不多做解釋

  • we mean without bothering to explain it, it is to their minor errors and misunderstandings

    他們也能理解,對於他們小小的失誤和誤解

  • that we respond with sulks and rage. And, by comparison, in friendship, the supposedly

    我們就生悶氣或是暴怒。相反地,在友情的世界裡,因為怕被對方在約會後提起關於我們那些

  • worthless and inferior state whose mention should crush us at the end of a date, we bring

    沒用又差勁的心態而讓我們感到沮喪,我們選擇亮出我們

  • our highest and noblest virtues. Here we are patient, encouraging, tolerant, funny and

    最高尚的美德。這時的我們很有耐心、很能激勵人心、很寬容、很有趣而且

  • most of allkind. We expect a little less and therefore, by extension, forgive

    —最重要的—很善解人意。我們期望的不多,因此,可想而知,我們更願意去

  • an infinite amount more. We do not presume that we will be fully understood, and so treat

    諒解很多事情。我們不會去假設能夠被完全理解,所以也就以慈悲的胸懷,

  • failings lightly and humanely. We don't imagine that our friends should admire us

    看淡了那些缺點。我們不敢去假想我們的朋友會毫無保留地崇拜我們

  • without reserve and stick by us whatever we do, and so we put in effort and behave, pleasing

    或是無論我們做了什麼都不會離開,所以我們很努力地好好表現自己,

  • ourselves as well as our companions along the way. We are, in the company of our friends,

    試圖取悅對方也讓自己舒心。在朋友的陪伴下,我們就是自己

  • our best selves. Paradoxically, it is friendship that offers us the real route to the pleasures

    最好的一面。矛盾的是,是友情讓我們得到真正的生活樂趣而不是

  • that Romanticism associates with love. That this sounds surprising is only a reflection

    浪漫主義中所說的愛情。這可能聽起來令人驚訝,但這只不過反映了

  • of how underdeveloped our day to day vision of friendship has become. We associate it

    我們平常對於友情的看法變得如此淺薄。我們把友情看做是

  • with a casual acquaintance we see only once in a while to exchange inconsequential and

    一位久久才照一次面的朋友,只會聊一些無足輕重的話或是開一些

  • shallow banter. But real friendship is something altogether more profound and worthy of exultation:

    膚淺的玩笑。然而,真正的友情其實帶有更深奧的涵義,而且更讓人值得驕傲:

  • it is an arena in which two people can get a sense of each other's vulnerabilities;

    因為在友情的世界裡,兩個人都能了解到彼此脆弱的一面;

  • appreciate each other's follies without recrimination, reassure one another as to

    知道彼此做過的蠢事而不多加批判,讓彼此都看到自己的

  • their value and greet the sorrows and tragedies of existence with wit and warmth. Culturally

    價值,也在面對苦痛和困境時能把智慧和溫暖帶給彼此。就整體文化

  • and collectively, we have made a momentous mistake which has left us both lonelier and

    而言,我們犯了個很大的錯誤,而讓雙方都陷入更寂寞也

  • more disappointed than we ever needed to be. In a better world, our most serious goal would

    更失望的情境中。在更美好的世界裡,我們最重要的目標並不是

  • not be to locate one special lover with whom to replace all other humans, it would be to

    讓我們最特別的愛人取代掉身邊所有的人,反而是要把

  • put our intelligence and energy into identifying and nurturing a circle of true friends. At

    我們的智慧和能力拿來用心觀察、用心對待那些真正的朋友。在度過了

  • the end of an evening, we would learn to say to certain prospective companions, with an

    一個美好的傍晚後,我們能學著去告訴那個我們認為有希望的另一方,在我們

  • embarrassed smile as we invited them insideknowing that this would come across as

    害羞又尷尬地笑著邀請他們入內時—已經知道我們是有可能

  • a properly painful rejection – 'I'm so sorry, couldn't we just belovers?'

    會被殘忍地拒絕—「很抱歉,我們難道就不能當...情侶嗎?」

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    如果你喜歡這個影片,請訂閱我們的頻道,並點擊鈴鐺符號以打開影片通知

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我們只是朋友!這樣有什麼優點呢?(The Advantages of Being 'just Good Friends')

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