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  • Always, always the best.

  • This is the best job.

  • It really is the best job.

  • Hey there, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV.

  • It's the place to be to create a business and life you love.

  • Now, if you are stuck behind your screen and struggling to meet more people in real life,

  • this episode is especially for you.

  • Today's question comes from Wendy who writes:

  • Hi, Marie.

  • I did B-School a few years back, and really appreciate you and your team.”

  • We appreciate you.

  • In business, I'm comfortable being vulnerable online, but I realized that I'm not at all

  • comfortable talking to people in person about what I do.

  • I've recently moved to New York City, and there's no shortage of humans.

  • However, I'm struggling to get out from behind the screen and have real conversations.

  • In a world that makes it easy to hide behind our computers, what are surefire tools to

  • get me out of my comfort zone and into the world?

  • Thanks so much, Wendy.”

  • Wendy, Wendy, Wendy.

  • This is a great question.

  • So many people watching right now can relate.

  • Because, you know, working from home, it does have its benefits, like a flexible schedule

  • and time freedom and, hey, you get to choose whether or not you want to wear pants.

  • But it can also be really isolating.

  • And even if you love people, talking about what you do doesn't come naturally to all

  • of us.

  • I know this firsthand.

  • I mean, I used to go to parties and as soon as I would get that dreaded question, “What

  • do you do?”

  • I would stumble.

  • I mean, I didn't like the term life coach, so I'd often say, “Uh, you know what?

  • I write things and I make videos and I help people.

  • But, hey, do you know where the bathroom is?”

  • However, like most things in life, this is totally figureoutable.

  • So here are three surefire steps to help get you going.

  • Step number one is set a stretch goal.

  • Now, to be clear, this is not about stretching out your hammies while you get to know someone.

  • So, you got any siblings?

  • Yeah, you know, I have a brother.

  • Oh, I felt that!

  • Oh.

  • So you got any hobbies?

  • So you asked about getting outside of your comfort zone.

  • Now, if you feel comfortable introducing yourself to, let's say, one person a day, then set

  • a stretch goal and introduce yourself to five.

  • And if five feels kind of easy, go to ten.

  • And do this for a week or three weeks and watch how quickly you grow.

  • Step number two is be interested, not interesting.

  • And, look, I get this.

  • Right?

  • Most of us want other people to find us and our businesses interesting and captivating

  • and fascinating.

  • Kind of like we're in a perfume ad.

  • From the moment I saw her I knew everything was figureoutable.

  • Except for her.

  • She was interesting.

  • Interesting.

  • Available at Nordstrom.

  • But you want to know what makes people really interested in you?

  • It's when you show interest in them.

  • I mean, you could offer them a genuine compliment, you could ask some questions, or have some

  • fun with some go-to icebreakers.

  • Hey.

  • Doing a little informal poll.

  • Toilet paper over or under, what do you think?

  • Hey, what's your position on yoga farts?

  • Do you give the side eye or just ignore?

  • Because I got one coming.

  • Now, if you feel uncomfortable starting with a weird question, you can say, “Hey, you

  • know what?

  • I have a weird question for you,” because, hey, who doesn't love a good weird question?

  • No matter what your approach, be that person who genuinely wants to know more about others,

  • and then listen to them like they are the only person on the planet.

  • Because the best connections rarely come from you talking.

  • They come from you listening.

  • Finally, step number three is have a party line.

  • Now, I'm not talking about an elevator pitch or a static way to answer the question, “So,

  • what do you do?”

  • Those things can get stale and boring fast.

  • But what I am talking about is just a simple line that you can use to introduce yourself

  • to anyone at any time.

  • Here's how I do it.

  • So when I'm at a party or a group event and I want to meet someone, I just walk up

  • to them and say, “Hey, I don't think we've met before.

  • I'm Marie.”

  • And I shake their hand.

  • It's simple, it's easy, and, I gotta say, it works every single time.

  • So, Wendy, there you have it.

  • Those are three steps to help you get out there and start meeting more people.

  • And I want you to notice somethingnone of what I shared addresses what you do, and

  • that is on purpose.

  • Because here's what I've found, when you focus on making genuine connections with other

  • humans, thewhat you do part,” that tends to unfold naturally when the time is right.

  • And you're gonna wind up describing your work in the context of the human that's

  • in front of you.

  • And, most important, it'll be fresh and it won't be formulic.

  • And if you want even more on this topic, be sure to watch our video called Networking

  • Basics: Eight Tips to Networking Without Being Fakey Pants.

  • And, of course, we have a brilliant interview with Susan Cain on Networking for Introverts.

  • And I'll put both of those links below this video.

  • Now, I want to land the plane on this tweetable.

  • Nothing gets attention like giving attention.”

  • That was my A to your Q, Wendy.

  • I do hope it helps.

  • And now I want to hear from you.

  • So what steps have helped you get out there from behind your screen and meet more people?

  • Is there anything else that you want to share in this topic with Wendy?

  • Leave a comment below and let us know.

  • Now, as always, the very best conversations happen after the episode over at the wonderful

  • land of MarieForleo.com, so head on over there and leave a comment now.

  • Once you're there, be sure to subscribe to our email list and become an MF insider.

  • You're gonna get instant access to a powerful audio called How To Get Anything You Want.

  • You'll also get some exclusive content and special giveaways and some personal updates

  • from me that I do not share anywhere else.

  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams, because the world needs that special

  • gift that only you have.

  • Thank you so much for watching, and I'll catch you next time on MarieTV.

  • B-School is coming up.

  • Want in?

  • For more info and free training go to JoinBSchool.com.

  • Yoga farts take one.

  • Oompa loompa doompetie do.

  • I am ass hand.

  • I'm here to grab some ass.

  • Check out that area.

  • Little nipple twitch.

  • Put it in your mouth.

  • Now eat the flower.

  • Now eat it.

  • Now spit it out!

  • Spit out the flower!

Always, always the best.

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