字幕列表 影片播放 列印英文字幕 Hi everyone, October is selective mutism awareness month! And I thought I could make a small video to educate, and because I have the disorder myself, I can also talk about it from a more personal perspective. Simply put, it is an anxiety disorder where a person does not speak in certain situations and does speak in others. For example, a child that does not speak at school at all, but does talk around friends and family. It is a very rare disorder. I think I read that less than 1% of the population have it. It's also mostly seen in children, as the disorder develops at a very young age but it may also last into teenage years and adulthood, if it's not treated properly in childhood. Well, some of us are just very shy by nature to begin with, and maybe we have inherited anxiety issues from our parents. And this may just turn into full-blown selective mutism later. It does not need childhood trauma or anything to trigger it. That's not where it comes from. I would like to add that you can in fact go mute after trauma, but that's not what this disorder is. I've had a lot of people thinking that I just choose not to speak - No! It's not something we can control. It's not a conscious decision not to speak. For me personally, it's like I'm physically not able to open my mouth when I go mute. So, no. It's not a choice. People also like to think that I just enjoy the power I have over my friends and family when they have to talk for me in social situations because I can't. I actually had different therapists saying this to my face, and - no! Oh my god. For me, it's certainly not the case. You can't imagine how much I would like to talk for myself and how guilty and bad I feel when I have others talking for me. So, no. It's not about having power, it's not about being in control. Well, people have tried to help me in the past by offering alternatives to speaking. Sometimes writing works for me, most of the time it doesn't Some use sign language, which is not an option for me at all... Everyone is different when it comes to that. Some of us even freeze completely when we go mute, so alternatives are not even an option in that situation. Something else that seems like a popular method to help is to just leave me no other choice and just force me to talk in a social situation. And I do understand where that's coming from - Within a therapy setting, it can be helpful to be confronted with a situation that scares you but doing it just like that is probably the opposite of helpful. It might go well, but it might also result in them feeling terrible for days, maybe even for weeks after this and not being able to talk again in a similar situation for the longest time. So, just forcing them to talk is probably a bad idea. So, what can you do instead? Well, first of all, ask the person affected by it! Like I said, we are all different, and what doesn't help me might be just the right thing for them! So, yeah. Ask them, because they probably already know what helps them and what doesn't help. Other than that, generally keep informing yourself, educating yourself on the disorder Also listen to people's personal experiences (as you are doing now!) So you can just understand it better, you can respect it Basically, respect that it's a real disorder that your child or your friend can't help and it's not just them being a brat. Just try not to make them feel guilty for having selective mutism. Well, thanks for listening and I will try to find some links I can put in the description box if you want to read more about selective mutism. And if you have any other questions you'd like to ask me, feel free to drop them in the comments and I'll be happy to answer as much as I can. So. Goodbye!