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Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business
嘿,我是瑪莉.芙萊奧(美國跨多行業專家),你正在收看的是Marie TV,這裡能讓你學會創造你所熱愛的事業
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and a life that you love. You know, recently I came across this quote from Mr. Chuck Swindoll
與生活,你們知道嗎,我最近看到一句查克.斯溫多先生說過的名言 (譯註: Chunk Swindoll是美國基督教牧師、作者、及教育家)
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and it really lit me up. Now, it’s something that I’ve heard before but for whatever
看完之後真的很鼓舞人心,雖然之前我早就聽過類似的道理
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reason this time it really sank in.
但就這一次最植入我心
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He says, “Life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it.”
他說:「所謂的人生,只有10%取決於遭遇到的事,其中90%取決於你如何應對」
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Pretty powerful, right? Because the fact is that things happen to us each and every day
非常有道理,對不對?因為事實上,每天都會有許多事情發生在我們身上
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that we have no control over. I mean, planes get delayed, we get sick, the internet goes
卻沒辦法全然掌控,也就是說,計畫總是趕不是變化,好比說,突然感冒,在傳輸大量資料時
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out in the midst of a huge project, we lose businesses, we lose jobs, and, unfortunately,
網路竟然就斷了,或是失去數筆交易、失去工作,甚至更不幸的
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we lose people that we love.
我們失去我們所愛的人
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Our lives radically change often at times whether we want them to or not. And ultimately,
我們的生活無時無刻充滿著變化,遑論我們想不想要,但是不論
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the impact that any outside situation has on your life depends on how you react or respond to it.
外在任何情況如何影響著你的人生,最終還是取決在你如何去面對處理這些事情
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So let’s go back to this quote one more time. “Life is 10% what happens to me, and
我們再回來看這句名言:「所謂的人生,只有10%取決於遭遇到的事
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90% how I react to it.” That means that as a factor of how your life goes and how
其中90%取決於你如何應對」,意思就是說,評斷你生活過得如何
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good it is, what happens to you is this tiny little sliver of your life pie. (Life pie)
過得好不好的因素當中,發生的事物本身,不過只是其中的一小小部分 (人生如派啊)
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I wanted to share this here because I believe that this is one of those major life lessons,
我在這邊想跟大家分享這句話,是因為我相信這是人生必學的一大課題
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one of those critical truths that if you really, really get it, it can radically alter the quality
若你真能領略,這也是非常重要的人生真理,它將能徹底改變你的生活品質
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and the trajectory of your life. I mean, it can save your business, it can save your marriage,
以及整個人生軌道,好比說,它可以拯救你的事業,搶救你的婚姻
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it can be the difference between failure and success in pretty much any endeavor and ultimately
它也是在成功與失敗兩者之間,你付出多少努力的寫照,不管最後結局如何
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whether or not you reach your highest potential. Now, this idea is something that I personally
你已為自己的人生做到盡善盡美了。就目前來說,這是我個人
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am always working on getting better at, and today I wanted to share 3 ways that you could
現在一直不斷努力希望能達到的目標,而今天我想分享3種方法可以讓你們
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bring this rule to life, especially when the shiitake hits the fan.
將該守則付諸於現,特別是遇上大麻煩的時候
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Number one is hold that tongue. When I’m fired up and I am in reaction mode, I have
第一,先閉起你的嘴,當我被惹火的時候,做事就很容易受情緒影響,
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to hold my tongue. I need to give myself a chance to really feel what I’m feeling,
我就得先冷靜下來,必須讓自己有機會了解到自己的感受
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to actually process what’s happening, and think through my response. Otherwise if I
便於處理剛才所發生的事,並且思考我該如何應對,否則如果我
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react and let that fired up Jersey girl out immediately, chances are I’m gonna make
硬碰硬直接對上,還破口大罵,本來可以簡單處理的事情
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what should be a minor situation into a big, hot, fat mess.
瞬間就變成棘手難處理的大麻煩
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That is why I’m such a huge fan of meditation. Meditation really gives you the power to be
這就是為什麼我非常喜歡冥想這項活動,冥想能給予你在生活中遇到事情時
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less reactive in life. You’re gonna have more control over your ability to chill out
反應不要那麼大的能力,你會比較能夠掌控冷靜應對、沈得住氣
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and hold your tongue so when you’re ready you can actually respond more thoughtfully
的能力,如此一來,當你冷靜下來,你就更能夠做出經審思周慮過後
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and appropriately.
適當的反應
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Number two is check yourself. So a simple practice when something unexpected happens
第二,確認自己現在的狀況,舉個簡單的例子,當生命中發生難以預期的事
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in life and you are tempted to freak out is to stop and check yourself.
你可能會嚇壞了,這時候最好先冷靜下來,檢查自己看看
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Ask, “Am I ok in this moment? Am I breathing? Is my heart beating? Is the ground still underneath
試著問自己:「此刻的我還活著嗎?我還有呼吸嗎?我還有心跳嗎?地板是否還在我的
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my feet?”
腳底下?」
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If you can say yes to all three, that means you are really ok right now and in some ways
如果你這3個問題的答案都是肯定的,就說明你目前的狀態現在很正常、是沒問題的,就某方面來說
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now is all there is. So for me if I get penne on a brand new white comforter or I get a
當下就是你唯一所擁有的東西。所以如果我全新的白棉被沾到管麵,或者
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flat tire on the way to the airport or if I get a text that my dad is in the hospital,
在前往機場的路上爆胎,或甚至收到我爸住院的簡訊
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before I freak out and react to what’s happening around me, I really try and practice and stop
在我整個脾氣大爆發,對發生的事物怒吼之前,我都會試著練習先冷靜下來
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and ask myself, “Am I ok in this moment?” And so far, thankfully, the answer has always
問問我自己:「此刻的我還活著嗎?」幸好到目前為止,這個回答都是肯定的
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been yes. And when I’m ok in this moment, my responses to whatever is happening come
既然我目前的狀況是沒問題的,對於突然發生的事情
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from a much more grounded and effective place.
也才能夠更有效地處理與應對
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Number three: say, “And this is what I want.” So I learned this little mantra from my man
第三:對自己說「這正如我所願」,這是從我朋友喬許身上
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Josh and it’s something that he says often in his Committed Impulse class, specifically
學到的這句名言,他自己常在他開的「放手一搏」課堂中提到
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when he’s making you do these crazy squats up on your tippy toes that make your legs
特別是他叫你半蹲,讓你的腳尖感到不穩,使你的腳
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shake uncontrollably.
不停地瘋狂顫抖的時候
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One caveat, this tool is super effective for pretty much everything besides tragedy level
這裡要提醒你,這一招對每件事情都非常有效,當然也包含碰上的一些
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events. I’m talking about traffic jams and tech trouble and lost credit cards and stuff
衰事,舉凡是路上塞車、設備故障,甚至是弄丟信用卡,族繁不及備載
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like that. It doesn't really apply to those heartbreaking and devastating events that
通通適用,雖然對於在我們人生中,必然面對的那些令人心碎
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all of us have to face in our life. But saying, “and this is what I want,” either out
又身心交瘁的事物來說效果不大,但透過對自己說「這正如我所願」,不論是大聲說出
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loud or in your head is a really effective way to reframe what you consider negative
或是在心裡講,都是一個能有效重組你認為是負面或失控情況
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or out of your control. So for example, there’s drilling outside my house and I’ve got to
的方法,舉例來說,我一整天都得忙著趕稿,而外面卻有吵雜的鑽孔聲
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write all day, and this is what I want. Or it’s raining on my wedding day, and this is what I want.
但這正如我所願,又或者,我的婚禮這一天下雨了,不過這正如我所願
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This little mantra trains your brain to fully embrace whatever is happening in each moment
這句小小的名言,訓練你的大腦欣然接受當下所發生的事情
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and really own it as though you wanted it, which puts you in complete control of that
讓你覺得猶如自己所願一樣,也恰好能讓你完全掌握住
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magical 90% of your life pie.
你那奇妙的90%的人生
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So I want to wrap up today with a great passage from our friend Chuck Swindoll that really
最後我想以我們的朋友查克.斯溫多講過的一段話來作為總結
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brings this idea home.
為我們今天所談的相互呼應
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“Attitude is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education,
「態度遠比事實重要許多,它比你的過去、所受的教育
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money, circumstances, than failures and success, than what other people think, say, or do.
擁有的財富、身處環境、積累的功敗、其他人怎麼想、怎麼說、怎麼做都還更加重要
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It is more important than appearance, ability, or skill. It will make or break a business,
它也比外表、能力、專長都來得重要。態度可以成就抑或毀滅一場生意
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a home, a friendship, an organization... The remarkable thing is I have a choice every
一個家庭、一段友誼甚或一個團體...... 值得注意的是,每一天我都有自主決定態度
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day of what my attitude will be. I cannot change my past. I cannot change the actions
的權利,我無法改變我的過去,我無法改變他人的所作所為
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of others. I cannot change the inevitable. The only thing I can change is attitude. Life
我無法改變註定會發生的事,唯一能改變的就是我的態度
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is ten percent what happens to me and ninety percent how I react to it.”
所謂的人生,只有10%取決於遭遇到的事,剩下90%取決於我如何應對」
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Now I would love to hear from you. What’s a specific area in your life that a shift
現在我想聽聽看你們的意見,在你生命中哪個階段,是讓你態度有所轉變
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in your attitude, not circumstance, could make the greatest positive impact? Leave a
不是機遇喔,進而能造成巨大正面的影響力?請大家在影片下面留言
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comment below and let me know. Now, as always, the best discussions happen after the episode
讓我知道,如往常一樣,每一集結束後,在MarieForieo.com網站裡
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over at MarieForleo.com, so go there and leave a comment now.
都會出現熱烈的討論,所以現在就請你到網站上,留下你的想法吧
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Did you like this video? If so, subscribe to our channel. And I would be so grateful
你喜歡這部影片嗎?如果喜歡,請訂閱我們的頻道,若能將它分享給你的朋友們
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if you shared it with your friends. And if you want even more resources to create a business
那當然是再好不過了,如果你想要更多超讚的資源
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and life that you love, plus some personal insights from me that I only send in email,
去創造你熱愛的事業及生活,或者想要我只會在email裡提到的個人洞見的話
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come on over to MarieForleo.com and sign up for email updates.
那就來MarieForleo.com網站,並且註冊以利收到電子報
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Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special
繼續闖蕩你的事業,並繼續朝著你的夢想邁進,因為這世界正需要
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gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.
你那獨一無二的天賦,非常感謝你的收看,我們下回再於Marie TV上見囉