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  • Hello, everyone!

    哈囉,大家好 !

  • My name is Emily Warren,

    我是 Emily Warren

  • and I am a PhD student in psychology.

    而且我是一位心理學博士生

  • P-h-D student.

    博-士-生

  • That has a nice ring to it, doesn't it?

    聽起來是個很棒的頭銜,對吧?

  • It means I got my shit figured out.

    這代表我對自己了解非常透徹

  • (Laughter)

    (笑聲)

  • Well, I may be the most atypical grad student you'll ever meet.

    我可能是你遇過最不典型的研究生了

  • I did something that most people would not advise you to do.

    我做了一件大部分人並不會建議你去做的事

  • I applied to graduate school on a whim.

    我申請研究所只是因為一時興起

  • Why would I do such a thing?

    為何我要這麼做?

  • You see, I did it because I had an expectation

    你看,我這麼做是因為我有期待

  • that maybe I would find some missing part of myself

    或許我會因此找到那迷失的自我

  • by being back in school, by being on a path,

    藉由重返校園、讓一切都在軌道上

  • a path that led to anywhere, other than moving back in with my parents.

    踏上一條可通往各處,遠離我父母的道路

  • Did it work?

    我成功了嗎?

  • No!

    不!

  • I haven't found some missing magical part of myself,

    我始終沒有找到絲毫遺失的自我

  • but in my past two years of graduate school,

    但在我過去兩年的研究生生涯裡

  • I have learned something that I think is more important and more valuable

    我學到了一件我認為更重要且更有價值的事

  • than any class you'll take as a PhD student.

    任何一個博士生在課堂中所學都無法與之比擬

  • I'm on stage today not because I have all the answers,

    我現在站在這裡並不是因為我有所有的答案

  • but because I have a question.

    而是因為我有一個疑問

  • How many of you have ever felt the need to find yourselves?

    你們之中有多少人曾經有過要找到自我的需求?

  • A lot of you.

    許多人

  • Me too.

    我也是

  • We are driven by this need, this expectation,

    我們被這個需求與期待驅使,

  • that our all important purpose in our adult lives is to find ourselves,

    我們人生中重要的目標就是去找到自己

  • that our latent selves are just out there somewhere,

    我們潛在的自我就藏在某處

  • waiting to be discovered.

    等待被發掘

  • Huh!

    喝!

  • I think that makes us treat the present moment like a placeholder.

    我想這讓我們忽略了當下

  • A lot of people will talk to you about their biggest fear,

    許多人會告訴你們他們最大的恐懼

  • so I'm going to tell you mine.

    所以我也要告訴你們我的

  • My biggest fear is reaching the end of my life

    我最大的恐懼是,窮盡一生

  • and realizing that I was never awake to any of it,

    最後卻發現我從來沒有真正清醒過

  • never in the present moment,

    從來沒有真正活在當下

  • because I was so focused on what I should be doing,

    因為我太專注於自己應該要做甚麼

  • or where I should be going.

    或者我應該要去哪

  • A life spent constantly searching for who I'm supposed to be,

    用了一生的時間探索究竟我該成為怎樣的人

  • instead of learning about who I am.

    而不是好好認識我到底是誰

  • I'm here to tell you that there is no such thing as finding yourself

    現在我在這告訴你們,其實根本沒有必須要找到自己這件事,

  • in the way that we have come to believe.

    一點都不是像我們一直深信的那樣

  • It's a story, a story that we've made up for ourselves

    這只是個故事,一個我們編給自己、

  • under the guise that we are meant to do a certain thing,

    用告訴自己我們註定要做某些事或走某些路包裝起來

  • or to be a certain way.

    的故事

  • It's the expectation that one day

    這是一個期待,某天

  • the unruly strands of our lives will bind together

    我們生命中複雜錯中的線最後會纏繞一起,

  • and point us in the right direction.

    並為我們指出人生正確的方向

  • Finding yourself is nothing more than a myth,

    尋找自我僅僅是個迷思,

  • and believing it is doing us a disservice.

    相信它對我們其實很不利

  • Why?

    為什麼?

  • Because it inherently implies that we are lost.

    因為這隱喻著我們處於茫然的狀態

  • So, how does this myth manifest in our lives?

    究竟這份迷思是如何出現在我們的生命中呢?

  • We jump around a lot: between jobs, between majors,

    我們四處漂泊:在工作、主修、

  • between relationships, between visions of who we are meant to be.

    人際關係以及我們該成為什麼人的期待中游移不定

  • We train our eyes to be constantly looking outward, never inward,

    我們訓練自己的眼睛不斷向外尋找,但從未留意過我們的內心

  • and completely lose sight of who we are and what we're doing.

    並完全失去了看清自己是誰、自己在做甚麼的能力

  • There is a beautiful wilderness trail here in Claremont,

    在克萊蒙特有一條美麗的荒野小徑,

  • we call it "the wilderness loop."

    我們稱它為 "the wilderness loop(荒野迴路)"

  • Just a short time ago, I went on a hike on this trail with a friend.

    就在不久前,我和一位朋友到這去爬山

  • We spent hours trekking up and down those dusty hills,

    我們花費數小時在這些泥濘的山丘爬上爬下

  • but afterward, I couldn't remember any of it,

    但之後我對這趟行程完全沒有任何記憶

  • not the sights, not the sounds, not the smells.

    不記得那些景色、聲音、味道

  • I had been so fixated on myself,

    我太過專注在我自己

  • worrying if I was on the right path in life.

    擔心著我是否正走在人生正確的道路上

  • And where did I end up?

    而最後我落腳於哪?

  • At the end of the path, right back where I had started.

    就在那條小徑的盡頭,剛好位於我的起點後面

  • If we keep jumping around, out of fear, out of self-doubt,

    如果我們因為恐懼、懷疑而不斷地四處游移

  • we are never going to land, and it's the landing,

    我們將無法真正得到安定,

  • the grounding ourselves in our experiences,

    這個安定是由我們自身經驗為基礎,

  • that allows us to gain our footing as wobbly or clumsy as we may be.

    讓我們在搖擺不定時能好好立足

  • So, how do we land as a student of psychology?

    所以,像我們心理學學生該如何得到安定呢?

  • Here are the skills that I think are critical to taking charge of who you are

    以下是我認為掌握你究竟是誰以及你該去哪裡

  • and where you're going.

    的重要關鍵技巧

  • We need grit!

    我們需要"grit"

  • It just sounds so bad - in a good way.

    這聽起來好糟啊,但它其實很正面

  • "Grit" is a concept developed by Dr. Angela Duckworth

    "Grit"是由賓夕法尼亞大學的 Angela Duckworth 博士

  • from the University of Pennsylvania.

    所提出的概念

  • Grit is the tenacity to keep going in the face of challenge.

    grit 是指面對挑戰時的意志力、

  • It is the humility to admit that this is really hard,

    謙虛地勇於承認事情並不容易,

  • and we are not going to be good at all of it.

    而我們並無法精通每樣事物的態度

  • We need tolerance.

    我們需要忍耐

  • Being okay with not knowing if this is what you should be doing,

    接受不知道應該要做甚麼、

  • not knowing exactly where we're going,

    不知道該何去何從的自己

  • but being confident in our ability to make it work.

    但同時並保有自信,相信自己可以做得到

  • So, the next time you find yourself struggling with a decision,

    所以,當下次你發現自己在選擇中掙扎

  • or worrying if you're on the right path,

    或擔心自己是否走在對的路上時,

  • I want you to get your grit on.

    我希望你能拿出你的意志力

  • Be tolerant with yourselves.

    當個堅強的人

  • Let go of the expectation that you need to find yourselves

    此時此刻,放下那些認為必須找尋自我

  • or figure things out perfectly, right here, right now.

    或必須完美解決所有事的心態

  • My hope for you is that you allow yourselves to be fully engaged

    我希望你們可以將你們生命中所有的經驗整合起來,

  • in your experiences, whatever they may be.

    不管任何經驗都好

  • Use them to collect data on yourselves.

    然後好好地運用它們

  • As Bob Evans has shown us tonight:

    正如 Bob Evans今晚告訴我們:

  • "You don't need to be a psychologist to become your own researcher."

    「你不必當個心理學家來探索你自己」

  • As Vanessa has told us:

    Vanessa曾說:

  • "Pay attention to who you are and what you're doing."

    「專注於你是誰以及你當前正在做的事」

  • Build your capacity for self-awareness,

    建立起自我察覺的能力

  • for I firmly believe that path will never lead you astray.

    我堅信你將不會在你的道路上感到茫然

  • It is going to be dusty,

    雖然這條路將會佈滿泥濘

  • it is going to be uphill,

    且崎嶇難行

  • but it is going to be worth it.

    但它將非常值得

  • Thank you.

    謝謝

  • (Applause)

    (掌聲)

Hello, everyone!

哈囉,大家好 !

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TEDx】自我發現的神話。Emily Warren在TEDxClaremontColleges上的演講 (【TEDx】The myth of self-discovery: Emily Warren at TEDxClaremontColleges)

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