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  • Does absence make the heart grow fonder?

    距離會使得愛更堅定嗎?

  • New science says dating long-distance might make a better relationship.

    現今科學指出,遠距戀愛也許會讓我們擁有更好的戀情

  • Hey distance daters, welcome to "D News."

    遠距戀愛的朋友們大家好,歡迎收看 D News

  • Trace here with the science lowdown on the dreaded long-distance relationship, or LDR.

    鎖定這裡的科學真相,探討令人害怕的遠距離戀愛,又稱遠距戀

  • Three million Americans are part of an LDR.

    有三百萬的美國人在遠距戀愛

  • 25% to 50% of college students are currently in one right now.

    而有 25% ~ 50% 的大學生正在遠距戀愛中

  • Of the non-college group,

    對於不是學生的人來說,

  • reasons could be military deployment, work preferences or requirements, internet dating, and even immigration and visa delays.

    遠距戀愛的原因可能是因為服兵役、工作喜好或工作需求、網路約會認識,甚至是移民以及簽證延遲等原因

  • The internet helps us feel closer, even when we're far apart.

    網路讓我們覺得距離變近,就算我們之間的距離很遙遠

  • So long-distance relationships are growing in popularity.

    所以遠距戀愛的風氣越來越興盛了

  • Technology like text messaging, instant messaging, video chat,

    新的科技,例如,文字簡訊、即時簡訊、影像通話等

  • they all help us feel the sense of inclusion and intimacy

    都讓我們覺得沉浸在彼此生活中而且很親密,

  • that we wouldn't have been able to get only 10 or 15 years ago.

    這些都是我們在 10 年、15 年前所不可能擁有的

  • The research from 2010 says

    2010 年的研究顯示

  • romance does kind of require face to face interaction.

    要維持一段戀情需要一些面對面的互動

  • Newer research, that's saying the opposite.

    新研究卻顯示相反的結果

  • A study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy says,

    《性與婚姻治療期刊》有一篇研究指出

  • those in long-distance relationships might actually be better at dating.

    那些遠距戀愛中的人,事實上也許更懂得怎麼約會

  • Researchers recruited people in close-by and long-distance relationships,

    這個研究找來了近距戀愛與遠距戀愛的人

  • who filled out a series of questionnaires

    請這些人填寫了一連串的問卷

  • tackling their intimacy, their commitment, their communication, psychological distress, and sexual satisfaction, or lack thereof.

    詢問出他們與戀人間的親密度、承諾、他們的之間的聯繫、心理壓力以及性生活滿意度、或是否缺乏性生活

  • Those in an LDR also indicated how often that they got to see each other.

    在遠距戀愛中的人也會被問多常與戀人見面

  • Though both groups were doing well,

    雖然不論是遠距或近距戀愛的人都過得不錯

  • the LDR couples were better functioning couples,

    但遠距戀情侶的相較之下更親密一些

  • reporting higher levels of satisfaction, intimacy, and communication.

    數據顯示他們在滿意度、親密度及溝通方面的得分都較高

  • The close-by couples win in the area of getting laid more.

    近距情侶就贏在有較頻繁的性生活

  • Basically, LDR couples have to replace their physical closeness with emotional closeness.

    基本上,遠距情侶必須把身體上的親密轉化成情感上的親密

  • While the close-by couples were overlooking some of their problems,

    當近距情侶選擇忽略某些問題

  • the long-distance couples,

    而遠距情侶

  • they were forced to sort them out.

    他們被逼著解決問題

  • A piece in Pacific Magazine puts it this way.

    《太平洋雜誌》有一篇文章這樣說

  • "Long-distance couples are arguably better at discussing sex,

    遠距情侶可以說是更會討論性愛

  • and those who live nearby actually have more sex."

    而那些住得很近的情侶就是——有更多性愛

  • A separate study this year in the Journal of Communication tipped the scales even farther toward long-distance couples,

    今年另一項在《傳播學期刊》的研究更是決定性地證明遠距情侶的好

  • indicating that they form even deeper bonds than their nearby neighbors

    研究指出,遠距情侶間的連結比近距離情侶間的連結更深

  • because of all of that sharing.

    因為遠距情侶會分享生活

  • Something those of us who are very familiar with the long-distance thing,

    分享這件事對於了解遠距戀這種東西的人

  • as my friends call it, know very well.

    就非常了解,我朋友會稱之為「這種東西」

  • Because, you know, you're just always talking.

    因為你就只是一直在聊天

  • You're just talking and talking, and there's more talking

    你就是講話啊、聊天啊,然後談天啊

  • and some talking and talking.

    又講講話啊,然後聊天

  • In the end, all this communication leads to a greater sense of mental intimacy,

    而最後這些聊天與溝通就會使心靈更加親密

  • which is great, if lonely.

    這很好,如果你們很寂寞的話

  • Psychotherapist and author, Rachel Sussman, points out

    一位心理治療師兼作者 Rachel Sussman 指出

  • the loneliness factor isn't really considered much in this research,

    在這項研究裡,寂寞的因素並沒有真正被考量到

  • but it can be really stressful for people,

    但它對我們來說是個相當大的壓力

  • which is a good point.

    這是一個很好的論點

  • Also, they don't really consider the jealousy factor.

    而寫研究員也沒有考慮到吃醋的因素

  • If you're a jealous person with a high level of FOMO,

    如果你是個愛吃醋的人,很害怕與戀人失聯的話

  • things could go sour, fast.

    你的戀情很快就會結束

  • "Lifehacker" has a couple of helpful tips

    「生活駭客網」有幾個實用的小撇步

  • to make LDR last, like make date nights,

    讓遠距戀愛能延續,像是如何晚上約會

  • where you video chat, eat dinner, watch a movie,

    在哪視訊通話、吃飯、看電影

  • text things like "wish you were here" to alleviate jealousy.

    傳一些「我希望你在這」的情話以減輕忌妒感

  • And when you talk, be present.

    而你聊天的時候,你要專心

  • Non-verbal cues are really important.

    沒有說出來的線索是很重要的

  • Most importantly, have an end date.

    最重要的是如何結束一個約會

  • If there is no end to the tunnel, then there's no light to look forward to. Right? Right?

    如果約會的隧道沒有盡頭,那就再也看不到戀情的明日曙光了

  • What if some of the most famous relationships were LDRs?

    如果一些有名的人是遠距戀的話會怎樣呢?

  • I wonder how like, Mary Todd Lincoln

    我在想如果我是瑪麗.托德 (美國前總統林肯的夫人)

  • would have tolerated Abe's brutal honesty?

    怎麼忍受小肯肯的殘忍誠實?

  • The word "independence" may have no A's in it.

    「獨立」這個詞裡面可沒有ㄋ這個注音

  • The declaration may have no holes.

    「宣言」的紙上也沒有個洞

  • But when you look at the people who signed it,

    但當你看到大家在簽署「獨立宣言」時

  • there are a lot of a-holes.

    那裏有很多,腦——洞

  • That guy just does not hold back.

    那傢伙就是很不受控制

  • Anyway, be sure to check out brutally honest Abe

    總之,記得要關注我們殘忍又誠實的亞伯

  • for more of his delightful truth bombs.

    來了解更多有關他的有趣真相

  • And tell us your thoughts about the long-distance thing in the comments area below.

    並在下面的留言區告訴我們你對於遠距戀愛的想法

  • And as always, subscribe for more "D News" every day.

    不免俗地要請大家訂閱我們的頻道以能夠每天看更多 D News 的影片

  • Thanks for watching.

    感謝大家的收看。

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