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  • You know, everybody wants to be happy, so why isn't everybody happy? The obvious answer is, it's not easy.

    你知道的,所有人都希望能快快樂樂,那為什麼不是所有人都是開心的?答案明顯的是,這並不簡單。

  • And one of the single biggest obstacles to being happy is that people naturally compare themselves to other people and assume nearly all of them are happier than they are.

    而其中一個快樂的最大阻礙就是人類自然而然會跟他人比較,然後認定幾乎所有人都比他們更快樂

  • This is a big problem. So, how would like an equation to determine the exact amount of unhappiness in your life?

    這是個很大的問題。所以,一個方程式該如何精準地計算你人生中不快樂的總值?

  • Well, I am here to tell you that I have developed an equation. It is U=I-R. U is unhappiness, I is image and R is reality.

    嗯,我現在就要在這裡告訴你,我已經開發了這個方程式。就是 U=I-R。U 是不快樂,I 是想像,R 是現實。

  • The difference between the images you have had for your life and the reality of your life is the amount of unhappiness in your life,

    你對人生的想像與現實之間的差異是你人生中不快樂的總值,

  • which gives you an idea of how powerful images are in hurting us.

    這就說明了這些想像是多麼強烈地傷害著我們

  • It's inevitable, everybody has an image. As you grow up, you imagine what life will be when you get older.

    這是無法避免的,所有人都會有想像。當你成長後,你會想像當你長大後你的人生會是怎樣的。

  • I had very, very powerful images -- if I may be personal, and it'll help here to be personal,

    我有一些非常、非常強烈的想像 - 如果我可以分享我的親身經歷,在解釋上會很有幫助

  • because I have gone through this. I imagined that I would be happily married, never divorced,

    因為我曾經歷過這些。我想像我會很快樂地結婚,從不離婚,

  • have four perfect children sitting around the table, discussing politics and theology every meal

    每餐都跟四個完美的孩子坐在桌邊討論政治、神學。

  • Well, it didn't quite turn out that way. I was divorced. I was divorced with a child, and my kids didn't always want to talk about theology and politics.

    嗯,最後並沒有變成這樣。我離婚了。我離婚了,且有一個孩子,而我的孩子並不是隨時都想要討論神學跟政治。

  • Sometimes they didn't want to talk at all. Sometimes they wanted to talk about sports, or about music that I couldn't stand.

    有時候他們完全不想要說話。有時候他們想聊體育或我無法忍受的音樂。

  • Now, I had to realize very early in my life that I would either have to abandon my image

    現在,我必須早早就接受,我得放棄我的想像

  • or I would be miserable the rest of my life. And this is true for just about everybody,

    否則我的下半輩子都會很痛苦。而這對很多人來說都是真的,

  • That's what the mid-life crisis in so many people is about -- whether it is male or female

    這就是許多人的中年危機-不管是男人或女人

  • -- especially for men. They reach 35, 45, 55 and then they think, "wait a minute,

    -特別是男人。當他們 35、45、55 歲的時候,他們想:「等一下,

  • I thought I would be the CEO; I thought I would be a president; I thought I'd be the president

    我以為我會成為總裁;我以為我會成為總統;我以為我會成為美國總統

  • of the United States; I thought I would be earning this amount of money; I thought I would be one of the most respective members of my community."

    我以為我會賺到這麼多的錢;我以為我會在社會中成為其中最受尊重的一個成員。」

  • And then I would say every man ultimately fails the image that he has had for himself.

    然後我會說,每個男人最後都無法實現他設定給自己的想像

  • That's the biggest part of what mid-life crisis is about. Images kill people. Think of anorexia.

    這是中年危機中最大的部分。想像可以殺人。想想厭食症。

  • Some teenage girls and young women have an image of how they want to look, and in some

    有些青少年女孩跟年輕女人想像自己該長怎樣,然後在某些

  • cases they will starve themselves to meet that image. This is true for whatever images

    案例中,他們會為了實現自己的想像而挨餓。不管我們對自己的人生有什麼

  • we have in our life. People imagine family life a certain way, they imagine a spouse

    想像,都會是一樣的情況。人們對家庭生活有自己的想像,對另一半有

  • a certain way, they imagine their children a certain way, they imagine their job a certain way,

    自己的想像,對孩子有自己的想像,對工作有自己的想像

  • So, what do you do about it? Well, there are two things. One, either develop a new image

    所以,該怎麼做呢?有兩個方法。你可以有新的想像,並樂在其中

  • and enjoy that, or just celebrate the reality that you now have. Maybe the reality you now

    或者擁抱現實生活中你所擁有的。也許現實生活中你有的就

  • have is pretty darn good. You don't need an image to ruin it, because I promise you,

    已經很棒了。你不需要想像來破壞現實,因為我保證

  • that that's exactly what the image will do. And that is why U=I-R. Unhappiness = Image - Reality.

    那就是想像會造成的事。而就是為什麼 U=I-R。U 是不快樂,I 是想像,R 是現實。

You know, everybody wants to be happy, so why isn't everybody happy? The obvious answer is, it's not easy.

你知道的,所有人都希望能快快樂樂,那為什麼不是所有人都是開心的?答案明顯的是,這並不簡單。

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快樂的方程式 (Happiness Equation: U = I - R)

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    Ray Du 發佈於 2015 年 06 月 26 日
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