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  • You know, everybody wants to be happy, so why isn't everybody happy? The obvious answer is, it's not easy.


  • And one of the single biggest obstacles to being happy is that people naturally compare themselves to other people and assume nearly all of them are happier than they are.


  • This is a big problem. So, how would like an equation to determine the exact amount of unhappiness in your life?


  • Well, I am here to tell you that I have developed an equation. It is U=I-R. U is unhappiness, I is image and R is reality.

    嗯,我現在就要在這裡告訴你,我已經開發了這個方程式。就是 U=I-R。U 是不快樂,I 是想像,R 是現實。

  • The difference between the images you have had for your life and the reality of your life is the amount of unhappiness in your life,


  • which gives you an idea of how powerful images are in hurting us.


  • It's inevitable, everybody has an image. As you grow up, you imagine what life will be when you get older.


  • I had very, very powerful images -- if I may be personal, and it'll help here to be personal,

    我有一些非常、非常強烈的想像 - 如果我可以分享我的親身經歷,在解釋上會很有幫助

  • because I have gone through this. I imagined that I would be happily married, never divorced,


  • have four perfect children sitting around the table, discussing politics and theology every meal


  • Well, it didn't quite turn out that way. I was divorced. I was divorced with a child, and my kids didn't always want to talk about theology and politics.


  • Sometimes they didn't want to talk at all. Sometimes they wanted to talk about sports, or about music that I couldn't stand.


  • Now, I had to realize very early in my life that I would either have to abandon my image


  • or I would be miserable the rest of my life. And this is true for just about everybody,


  • That's what the mid-life crisis in so many people is about -- whether it is male or female


  • -- especially for men. They reach 35, 45, 55 and then they think, "wait a minute,

    -特別是男人。當他們 35、45、55 歲的時候,他們想:「等一下,

  • I thought I would be the CEO; I thought I would be a president; I thought I'd be the president


  • of the United States; I thought I would be earning this amount of money; I thought I would be one of the most respective members of my community."


  • And then I would say every man ultimately fails the image that he has had for himself.


  • That's the biggest part of what mid-life crisis is about. Images kill people. Think of anorexia.


  • Some teenage girls and young women have an image of how they want to look, and in some


  • cases they will starve themselves to meet that image. This is true for whatever images


  • we have in our life. People imagine family life a certain way, they imagine a spouse


  • a certain way, they imagine their children a certain way, they imagine their job a certain way,


  • So, what do you do about it? Well, there are two things. One, either develop a new image


  • and enjoy that, or just celebrate the reality that you now have. Maybe the reality you now


  • have is pretty darn good. You don't need an image to ruin it, because I promise you,


  • that that's exactly what the image will do. And that is why U=I-R. Unhappiness = Image - Reality.

    那就是想像會造成的事。而就是為什麼 U=I-R。U 是不快樂,I 是想像,R 是現實。

You know, everybody wants to be happy, so why isn't everybody happy? The obvious answer is, it's not easy.



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快樂的方程式 (Happiness Equation: U = I - R)

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    Ray Du 發佈於 2015 年 06 月 26 日