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  • I want this!


  • For some people, it's the easiest thing in the world to say.

    對某些人來說 這是世界上最容易說出口的一句話

  • Life's pretty nice for these kinds of assertive people.

    對這些有自信的人來說 生活一定很不賴

  • They usually end up with the window seat on airplanes, the last slice of pizza and a cubicle that's not by the bathroom.

    他們最後總坐在飛機上靠窗的位子 吃掉最後一片披薩 而且坐在不靠廁所的辦公桌

  • I hope he flushed.


  • But not everybody is naturally assertive even if they're allowed.

    但並不是每個人都天生的那麼有自信 即使他們被允許

  • If you're like a lot of members on the WellCast Team, you might not be as comfortable talking about yourself.

    如果你跟我們 WellCast 團隊裡的很多人一樣 那你在表達自己時可能會覺得不自在

  • Saying what you want or what you think when you're around a lot of people can be really difficult.

    當你在一群人之中 說出你想要的東西或你的想法可能格外困難

  • Okay well, today we've got four quick tips on how to be more assertive in every aspect of your life.

    好 我們有四個簡單的小技巧 能讓你在生活中的各個層面都變得更有自信

  • At school, at work or at a nerve-racking situation, like having to tell your parents that you ding the car (I'am so sorry).

    不論是在學校 在公司 或在讓人不安的場合

  • You're ready? Tip one: hold on to your N.U.T.s!

    例如要告訴爸媽 你把車子撞凹了 (真的很對不起)

  • Yap. This is an acronym borrowed from the author Wayne Levine.

    準備好了嗎? 第一,堅守你的 N.U.T.們

  • It stands for non-negotiable, unalterable terms, basically, your boundaries.

    沒錯 這是向作家 Wayne Levine 借用的縮寫

  • When you find yourself stuck in an uncomfortable position, ask yourself what are the most important things to me in this situation.

    這代表不可談判且不可改變的事物 基本上就是你的底線

  • What do I absolutely refuse to compromise.


  • Your N.U.Ts should include something broad like my health, or something specific, like my "A" average in biology.

    問問自己 這個狀態下 什麼是對我來說最重要的

  • Either way, once you know what your priorities are, it'll be easier to fight for 'em.


  • Tip 2 : Be simple, honest and direct.

    你的N.U.T.要包含宏觀的事物 例如自己的健康

  • Don't be passive or aggressive or coiled, it's annoying.

    或是一些具體的事物 例如生物科的平均要拿 A

  • If a waiter brings you a kale salad and you ordered a cheeseburger.

    總之 只要你知道自己的優先順序 你就更容易為他們而戰

  • Don't wait until the end of the meal to undertip, you have to send it back.

    第二,簡單 誠實 和直接

  • If you're honest and direct, rather than waffly and underhanded, things are more likely to work out in your favor.

    不要太消極 有敵意 或拐彎抹角 那很煩人

  • At the very least, you've done yourself a favor by making your needs known.

    如果服務生給你甘藍菜沙拉 但你點的其實是起司漢堡

  • Tip 3 : Fake it till you make it.

    不要忍到吃完 然後又給服務生太少的小費 你應該把沙拉退回去的

  • Hey here's a secret. If you act assertive, you'd start feeling assertive.

    如果你既誠實又直接 而不是含糊其辭或狡詐

  • So, how do you know to do that?


  • Well, use your body language and your voice to make your presence known.

    至少啊至少 你幫了自己一個忙 因為你已經讓自己的需求被知道了

  • Practice good posture and speak in an authoritative volume.

    第三 假裝有自信 直到你真的很有自信

  • Please do not touch anything on my desk.

    嘿 這裡有個秘密 如果你表現得很有自信 你就會開始感到自信

  • It smells in there, are you flushing? I know you didn't wash your hands.


  • Be an eagle, not a turtle.

    運用你的肢體語言和聲音 讓你顯得很有存在感

  • I know, just let me tease this metaphor out a little bit, it's a little weird.

    練習好的坐姿與站姿 並用有權威的音量講話

  • Do:Be an eagle. Don't:Be a turtle.


  • Don't thrust your shoulders forward to slump.

    那裡面好臭 你有沖水嗎? 我知道你沒洗手

  • You look like you're apologizing for yourself.

    要當老鷹 不要當烏龜

  • Do strengthen your back, stick your chest out, breath evenly and deeply.

    我知道這個比喻有點怪 不過讓我澄清一下

  • Don't dart your eyes about, it's gonna look like you've got something to hide.

    要當一隻老鷹 不要當烏龜

  • Pro tip, if you're nervous about maintaining eye contact, look at someone's nose or forehead, you'll see more engaged and in control.


  • We've tried this, it actually works.


  • Do speak up. Seriously, I can even hear you right now.

    挺直你的背脊 挺起你的胸膛 平穩且深沉的呼吸

  • Tip 4 : Use "I" statements, instead of "you" statements.

    不要左看右看 這看起來像你在隱瞞什麼東西

  • This way you can express what you want without being accusatory.

    這裡有個專業建議 如果你對於和他人進行眼神交流感到緊張

  • To wit, what follows is the wrong way to tell your roommate to do the dishes.

    那就盯著對方的鼻子或額頭 你看起來會更專注而且較不緊張

  • You'd never do the dishes, there is a pile of them in the sink right now and it's old enough to be carbon dated.

    我們試過了 這真的有效

  • Here's the right way, I feel like I've been doing more than my fair share of the dishes lately.

    一定要把話說出來 真的 我現在甚至可以聽到你的聲音

  • I'm pretty tired when I get home from work, could you help me out?


  • See? You expressed your frustration without sounding like a nag.

    如此一來 你在表達想法的同時就不會顯得很興師問罪

  • The assertive is goldmine.

    接下來要示範的是 叫你室友去洗碗的錯誤方法

  • Alright. You've completed your primer for being assertive.

    你從沒有洗過碗 現在水槽裡有一堆碗盤

  • Remember: figure out your priorities, be straightforward and honest, maintain good posture, eye contact and volume, and use "I" statements.


  • Go forth Well Casters, you're ready to tell that waiter that you ordered a cheeseburger.

    接下來才是正確方法 我覺得我最近洗碗的次數比當初約定的還多了

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