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  • (Latin American Music)

    (拉丁音樂)

  • (Applause) (Music)

    (掌聲)(音樂)

  • (Music)

    (音樂)

  • Man: I'm just going to be in the green room in the back

    男士:表演結束後,若你真的想要說什麼

  • if you really want to talk about some, after you're done.

    我會在舞台後的休息室喔

  • Chen Lizra: Just give me the clicker.

    Chen Lizra: 趕快給我PPT遙控器

  • Man: OK. Got your clicker here.

    男士:好啦,給你

  • Thank you.

    謝啦

  • Whoo!

    挖喔

  • Man: Really?

    男士:真的假的

  • CL: I guess you don't need coffee now, do you?

    CL:我想你現在不需要喝咖啡了,是吧

  • Man: Well, right.

    男士:好吧好吧

  • CL: My name is Chen Lizra.

    CL:我叫Chen Lizra

  • I'm a dancer, author and an entrepreneur.

    我同時是個舞者、作家,以及企業家

  • I started my talk with a seductive dance

    我以誘惑人的舞蹈開始我的演說

  • because I want you to first feel the seduction,

    因為我想要讓妳們感受到被誘惑的感覺

  • to get you -- kind of -- to gut level.

    讓你們--有點--超出理性

  • I'm fascinated with seduction, but not just with the dance and the movements,

    我著迷於誘惑之道,但不限於舞蹈動作

  • but also with how you can bring it in a practical way into day-to-day life.

    而是在於如何將誘惑融入日常生活

  • Since 2005, I've been travelling back and forth to Cuba

    我從2005年開始來來往往古巴

  • in order to train with the best professional dancers.

    和專業的舞者一起訓練

  • This is when I first started seeing seduction as a valuable life skill.

    這是我第一次開始認知到誘惑是個重要的生活技能

  • I'm so fascinated with seduction,

    我深深著迷於誘惑之道

  • but mostly because it's such a playful fun thing.

    但大部分是因為誘惑本身很好玩

  • I truly believe that everyone has the power to seduce in them,

    我相信每個人都有能力去又誘惑他人

  • we just need to unleash it.

    我們只是需要釋放這股力量

  • And I also believe that we need to develop this skill

    而我也相信我們需要從小就發展這項技能

  • from a very young age, so it can help us

    如此誘惑就可以幫助我們

  • become a lot more successful in life.

    獲得更大的成功

  • So let's examine seduction for a second,

    讓我們觀察一下誘惑之道到底是什麼

  • and let's take a look at our perception of seduction,

    讓我們了解一下我們對誘惑的感受

  • what it all means.

    它到底代表什麼意思

  • When we first hear the word "seduction",

    一聽到誘惑這兩個字

  • we have a lot of misconceptions.

    我們會有許多誤解

  • The word has been sexualized so many times

    這個字大多數時候都被色情化

  • that we can't even imagine it as a positive skillset.

    我們根本無法想像誘惑是正向的技能

  • We typically associate seduction with something negative,

    通常我們講到誘惑都會聯想到負面的東西

  • because we consider it the less honest or acceptable form of influence.

    因為我們認為誘惑是不誠實的或是難以令人接受的力量

  • People who are easily seduced

    輕易就被誘惑的人們

  • to some degree feel manipulated into the situation.

    會覺得自己在情境之下被操控了

  • When we think of gender roles, it's not even a question

    換到性別角色的話 這個例子更明顯

  • that men are permitted a lot more freedom than women to seduce.

    男人比起女人有更多自由去誘惑

  • And when we think of work and seduction,

    當我們想到工作和誘惑

  • we merely go to sleeping your way to the top and being unprofessional.

    我們就直接就想到,和高層睡在一起,不專業的工作倫理

  • You know how people say, some people say that money's bad,

    你知道有些人說金錢不好

  • but the money itself is not bad, right?

    但金錢本身其實不壞,對吧

  • It comes down to money gives you power,

    細看之下其實是金錢給人權力

  • and power can be used for good and for bad;

    而權力可以用在壞的或好的地方

  • it comes down to who you are inside.

    這得要看看你的內在

  • Seduction is exactly the same,

    誘惑也就是這樣

  • it comes down to your DNA and what you choose to do with it.

    誘惑根植在DNA中 取決於你如何使用它

  • I choose to make seduction classy,

    我選擇讓誘惑變的優雅

  • and to add to it my sense of loyalty and integrity.

    加上我感受到的正直和高貴

  • Seduction is really about your untapped power

    誘惑真的是你還未使用的力量

  • that you're not using, that you want to unleash.

    你沒在使用;你想要釋放的一股力量

  • Would we tell superman not to stop a bullet?

    我們會告訴超人不要擋下子彈嗎

  • Or a doctor not to save a life?

    或是告訴一位醫生不要去拯救生命

  • But, of course, not.

    當然不會

  • Seduction is about charm, connection, vulnerability, pride,

    誘惑是魅力、連結、脆弱、驕傲

  • self-confidence and appeal.

    自信以及吸引力

  • I'm one of those lucky ones, that gets to go to Cuba all the time.

    我很幸運能有機會常去古巴

  • And I've been observing this culture for a very long time,

    我觀察了這個文化好長一段時間

  • seeing how aware they seem to be of their seductive powers.

    觀察到他們多能駕馭誘惑的力量

  • You can say that in many ways,

    你可以說很多方面來講

  • Cuba has been like a seduction laboratory for me,

    古巴隊我來說一直是個嘗試誘惑的實驗室

  • where I get to study seduction and understand how they use it better.

    這個地方讓我學習如何誘惑以及了解如何誘惑的更好

  • But it's not like Cubans are the only people in the world

    但世界上並不是只有古巴人

  • that understand how to use seduction, right?

    才知道如何誘惑,是吧?

  • You can experience it in other countries in the world:

    你可以在其他國家體驗到

  • in Israel, in Brazil and the Dominicans and many other countries.

    以色列,巴西,多明尼加,以及世界各個國家

  • And yet in Cuba I found a combination of things,

    而在古巴我找到了事物的結合

  • a very unique combination of things,

    非常獨特的結合

  • that I haven't found yet anywhere else in the world,

    這是我在世界其他角落找不到的

  • and I'll speak about some of them today.

    今天我就講講這些結合

  • And you'll probably agree with me when I say

    你應該也會同意我的看法

  • that the chances of finding this kind of seduction out in the open

    當我在公開的場合說尋找這種誘惑

  • in North America is pretty close to slim, right?

    在北美這種地方這種機會可說是微乎其微,是吧?

  • I truly believe that we can learn a valuable life lesson

    我真的相信我們可以學到一門珍貴的人生課程

  • from Cubans about life and seduction.

    關於古巴人對於生活對於誘惑的看法

  • And having said that, if we were to try and take seduction

    如果我們真的去嘗試誘惑

  • and break it into some kind of a formula, what would that look like?

    並且把誘惑分解成一些公式,那會是什麼樣子呢

  • One: desire -- start taking notes!

    第一個:慾望。開始記筆記囉!

  • Desire means knowing what you want

    慾望指的是知道你要什麼

  • and then having the willingness to go after it.

    並且有動力去追求想要的東西

  • In Cuba, rumba is the game of seduction between the man and the woman.

    在古巴,倫巴是一種男女之間誘惑的遊戲

  • The woman is the flirty hen and the guy is the seductive rooster.

    女人是勾引人的母雞而男人是誘惑的公雞

  • The woman uses her body to seduce the men to say, "Want it? Come and get it."

    女人用她的身體去誘惑男人,並說:想要嗎?來吧!

  • The guy on the other hand will use his body

    男士則會用他的身體

  • to demonstrate his masculinity.

    去展現他雄性的一面

  • He'll try to decoy her. Boom!

    男士會嘗試讓女士落入圈套 迸!

  • Launching an attack. (Laughter)

    發射一發子彈 (笑聲)

  • He's trying to pecker her and get her pregnant.

    他嘗試要讓女士懷孕

  • She'll notice the attack, she'll block it,

    女士會感受到攻擊,會閃避

  • she'll mock him for not succeeding,

    女士嘲笑男士沒成功

  • and she'll go, "Didn't make it. Try again."

    她會說:沒成功啊,再來一次

  • Cubans interact on the streets everyday, as if they're playing the game of rumba.

    古巴人每天在街上都上演這種戲碼,就好像他們在玩倫巴

  • They keep a tension, a sexy tension, always alive.

    他們讓這種緊張,性方面的緊張,永不停歇

  • It's like, you could almost have it, but not.

    就好像你可以一直擁有,但卻不然

  • But if you only tried, then maybe.

    但你如果有試過,那就有可能

  • (Laughter)

    (笑聲)

  • Keeping the "maybe" alive is the skill of presenting potential possibilities

    讓"可能吧"一直存在,是一種展現潛在可能的技巧

  • and then fuelling them with desire.

    然後用慾望去灌溉他們

  • It's about learning where the emotional buttons are,

    去了解情緒的開關在哪裡

  • and then triggering them.

    然後去引爆他們

  • When there is real desire, even if it's hidden,

    當有真正的慾望出現,即使是藏著的

  • it's possible to lure it out.

    也有可能讓猛虎出匣

  • But you really got to get what the other person is missing,

    但你要去了解人們缺少什麼

  • and then give it to them.

    並去滿足他們的需求

  • And when it's done right, it's virtually impossible to say "no" to.

    如果做對了,幾乎沒有人會說不

  • Number two: confidence.

    第二個:信心

  • Strong self-confidence is essential for seduction;

    擁有強大的自信才能誘惑別人

  • without it you can't go after what you want.

    沒有了自信,你就得不到你想要的

  • Our self-image is formed at a very young age

    我們的自我形象在早期就已經成形

  • and is deeply affected by our environment.

    並且身受環境的影響

  • Cubans praise their kids from a very young age

    古巴人在他們孩子還小的時候就不斷稱讚他們

  • to feel confident and stunning in their own bodies,

    這讓他們的小孩裡外都散發了自信

  • because they recognize this is a very valuable life skill.

    因為古巴人知道這是很重要的生活技能

  • You'll see them at the pool at the hotel, the music is like blasting,

    你會看見他們在泳池旁邊,音樂隆隆作響

  • they're grinding to the music, and the little ones

    大人彼此起舞,而小孩

  • are grinding right beside them, and they'll turn to them and say,

    就在大人旁邊磨蹭學樣,大人就會跟小孩說

  • "Que lindo!" or "Que linda eres!" -- "You're so beautiful!"

    你好漂亮啊!你超美的!

  • Add to this that in Cuba there is no advertising,

    再加上古巴本身沒有廣告

  • because it's a communist country,

    因為古巴是個共產社會

  • so there's nothing that distorts the body image.

    所以沒有東西能扭曲身體的形象

  • Cubans, not like us, are not affected

    古巴不像我們

  • by the media to try and think that they need a perfect body.

    身受媒體之害,認為應該要有一個完美的身體

  • Instead their self-image is formed out of how stunning

    取而代之的是,他們的身體形象是由環境

  • the environment makes them feel, and how much love they get at home.

    帶給他們的驚奇以及在家庭得到的愛所構成

  • As a result of all of this,

    這樣的結果下來

  • Cubans grow up feeling intense pride and self-confidence,

    古巴人裡外都充滿了強而有力的自信

  • no matter what body type or shape they might have.

    不管他們的身形如何

  • And it's this kind of self-confidence that leads later on

    這樣的自信都在日後的生活中引導著你

  • to how you present yourself in all areas of your life

    在生活的各個領域展現著自己

  • and how you succeed.

    並且達到成功

  • Body language.

    肢體語言

  • When you walk on the streets of Havana,

    當你走在哈瓦那的街頭

  • guys and girls check each other out, in the open, all the time.

    男人和女人們在公開場合總是互相觀察

  • They're not trying to hide it.

    他們不打算隱藏

  • And guys call after women with "Linda!", "Preciosa!"

    男人叫女人:小妞!漂亮喔!

  • And women respond with how they hold their bodies,

    女人則以扭轉身體

  • and how they accentuate their curves when they walk,

    展現身體的曲線來回應

  • because they know they're being noticed and admired,

    因為女人們知道有許多男人正在關注和稱讚她們

  • and they like it.

    她們很喜歡這樣

  • It makes it really easy to seduce and be seduced,

    如此一來不管是誘惑以及被誘惑都非常簡單

  • because you know what the other person is feeling.

    因為你知道對方在想什麼

  • Seduction also shows up in the tone of your voice,

    誘惑也同時展現在聲音的語調中

  • the kind of look you give, what you say and how you say it,

    你給人怎樣的臉色,說什麼,以及怎麼說

  • and at times, even adding a little touch.

    有時候,甚至去觸摸對方

  • Body language is very important for seduction

    肢體接觸對於誘惑是非常重要的

  • because it communicates to the other person

    因為它向別人訴說

  • what you want.

    你要什麼

  • Number four: arousal.

    第四個步驟:激發

  • To effectively seduce someone

    要有效率的誘惑別人

  • there has to be an activation of the arousal,

    要有個激活的程序

  • waking up in them the desire to give you what you want

    激發對方內在的慾望,讓對方給你你想要的

  • and luring it out.

    並且設法展現出來

  • But first, you have to connect and interact with the other person,

    但第一步,你必須要和人有所連結和互動

  • if not, then how will you get to their heart?

    如果沒有,你怎麼了解他們的心在想什麼

  • And for seduction to really work,

    要讓誘惑真的有效

  • you have to give it your undivided attention, in a moment.

    你必須在某個時刻全神貫注

  • One of the most charming things that I've noticed about Cuban men,

    古巴男人最吸引人的其中一點在於

  • is how they to go after what they want completely fearless of the consequences

    他們勇往直前不畏失敗

  • of getting hurt or getting rejected.

    不怕受傷不怕被拒絕

  • They will seduce a woman over and over, making her feel desired and special,

    他們一而再再而三地誘惑女人,讓她們覺得自己很特別,甚至慾望被勾起

  • even after she said "no" a couple of times,

    即使女人說了好幾次"不要"

  • slowly sneaking into her heart and waking up that desire.

    男人都悄悄地溜進她的心,並且喚起那慾望

  • In a "no" there was a "maybe" turns into a "yes".

    起先是不要,再來就變成可能,最後變成好

  • That's damn sexy.

    這真的超級性感的

  • This fearlessness of failure is a profoundly powerful capability

    這種不會失敗的精神是非常強大的能力

  • that I've noticed in some of the most seductive people

    從我認識中那些最有魅力的人們中

  • that I've ever met.

    都是這樣子

  • But they can do this

    但他們可以這樣做

  • because they've developed their intuitions so much,

    是因為他們讓自己的直覺更敏銳

  • that they can easily distinguish between a "no" that means a "no",

    變的可以輕易分辨真的的不要

  • because the last thing you want to do is not accept a "no" that means a "no".

    因為你最不想要的是接受一個真正的拒絕

  • So what I really want you to get

    我要你得到的東西

  • is that everyone has the power to seduce in them.

    是每個人都有勾起別人慾望的能力

  • The trick is to learn how to use it and when.

    秘訣在於如何使用以及何時使用

  • Seduction is a skill no matter how you look at it.

    不管你怎麼看,誘惑是個技巧

  • You can call it: wooing, persuading,

    你可以叫它:說服或遊說

  • winning someone over, charming, it doesn't really matter.

    贏別人,魅力,都無所謂

  • But what it is, is really about using all of the elements

    最重要的是如何使用這些我在演講中提到的

  • that I talked about here in the talk, which is one: desire, two: confidence,

    各種元素:慾望,自信

  • three: body language, four: arousal,

    肢體語言,激發

  • to build the connection that gets you what you want.

    建立一種連結,讓你得到你想要的

  • It's also important to remember that seduction is not a science,

    很重要的要記得,誘惑並不是科學

  • but an art, and that's the beauty of it, it comes from the heart.

    而是種藝術,它來自於你的心

  • And like any art, it can definitely be taught.

    就像任何一種藝術,一定可以經由學習學會

  • But to fully gain self-expression in it, you have to take the time to master it,

    但完全的掌握它,運用它,需要時間去精通

  • and make it your own.

    讓這項技能成為你自己的

  • My hope is that you will see seduction

    我希望你們將誘惑視為一種

  • as a valuable life skill, as I've learned to.

    有用的生活技能,就像我使用的那樣

  • Because so many people lose that childlike attitude

    太多人都失去了那種小孩般的心

  • as they grow into adulthood, and something's missing.

    當人們長為大人,有些東西就失去了

  • And wouldn't the world be a better place if we didn't.

    如果我們都不曾失去這種赤子之心,整個世界會不會更好

  • I really believe that seduction leads to self-confidence,

    我真心認為誘惑可以培養自信

  • and self-confidence leads to success in all areas of your life.

    而自信能帶領你達成各種成功

  • Master seduction and you can have anything that you want in life.

    精通誘惑的本領能讓你得到人生中各種你想要的東西

  • Anything.

    任何東西

  • I did get a TED Talk, didn't I?

    我就在TED上發表了一場演講,不是嗎?

  • (Laughter)

    (笑聲)

  • Thank you.

    謝謝

  • (Applause)

    (掌聲)

(Latin American Music)

(拉丁音樂)

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