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  • First things first, Wellcasters!

    各位觀眾,首先請注意!

  • If at any time your safety is in jeopardy ,call 911 or this National Domestic Violence Hotline.

    如果你的安全受到威脅,請撥打 911 或家暴專線。

  • 1 800 799 SAFE

    1 800 799 SAFE

  • There’s nothing more important than your health and well-being.

    沒有任何事比你的健康與安全更重要。

  • What do you do if youre in a romantic relationship with somebody who physically, emotionally, or sexually abuses you?

    如果交往對象在身體、情緒、甚至性方面對你施暴,你該怎麼辦?

  • It’s possible that you don’t even recognize the fact that youre being abused.

    其實,你很可能不自覺受到欺凌。

  • In fact, 28% of young adults have experienced violence in a romantic relationship.

    事實上 28% 的年輕人交往時受到暴力對待。

  • Like healthy relationships, abusive relationships have ups and downs.

    就像一般的交往,戀愛暴力也是有起有伏。

  • And it’s easy to write off the bad moments when youre in a good one.

    感情好時很容易就會忘掉之前的不愉快。

  • However, an abusive relationship is not a normal relationship.

    但是,戀愛暴力並不是正常的關係。

  • And a strategy for ending an abusive relationship is fundamentally different.

    逃離恐怖情人的策略,有根本上的不同。

  • On today’s Wellcast, were gonna show you how to tell if youre in this kind of relationship and how to safely get out of it ASAP.

    今天的 Wellcast 要教你如何辨別恐怖情人及如何安全地快速逃離這段關係。

  • Know this, youre not alone.

    你得知道,你並不孤單。

  • And there’s never too deep a hole that you can’t pull yourself out of it.

    而且不會有一個洞深至無法將自己從中拉出。

  • Help is out there.

    你不會求助無門。

  • You just have to recognize that you need it.

    只要你認清自己需要幫助。

  • Step 1: Admit to yourself that youre in an abusive relationship.

    第一點:承認他是個危險情人。

  • People often assume that relationships are categorized as abusive only if physical violence is involved.

    人們總以為有肢體暴力才算恐怖情人。

  • This isn’t true!

    才不是呢!

  • There are many different kinds of abuse and unhealthy relationships exist on a spectrum.

    施暴可分為各種層面而且不健康的關係,可用這光譜呈現。

  • It’s not always easy to determine if a relationship you once thought is healthy is cross the line.

    有時候不容易去判斷一段你曾認為是健康的關係,其實已經超越正常的界限了。

  • Here are a couple of warning signs you should look out for if you suspect that your partner is abusive.

    這裡有幾個判斷危險情人的方法。

  • We got these from an awesome resource that you should check out.

    來自一個很棒的網站,你得去看看。

  • loveisrespect.org

    loveisrespect.org

  • Do they constantly put you down especially in front of others?

    他是否常貶低你,特別是在眾人面前?

  • Are they extremely jealous?

    他是否醋勁十足?

  • Do they easily lose their temper?

    會不會常常暴怒?

  • Do they try to keep you away from your friends and family?

    會不會不想讓你接觸家人朋友?

  • Do they physically hurt you?

    有弄傷過你嗎?

  • Have friends and family members warned you about this person.

    家人或朋友曾警告過你這人不太對?

  • Two: Nobody deserves this.

    第二點:沒人值得這樣被對待。

  • Everyone deserves to be safe.

    每個人的人身安全都值得被保障。

  • In other words, build your army.

    換句話說,建立你的軍隊。

  • Try to spend as little time as possible alone with your abusive partner.

    盡可能別跟恐怖情人單獨相處。

  • Make sure your friends and family notice around you at this time.

    與其相處時,確保家人朋友注意你的安全。

  • Have them call you to check in on your periodically.

    請他們定時打電話給你,確定平安。

  • And always let them know where youre going.

    讓他們知道你要去哪裡。

  • Youre also pretty emotionally vulnerable right now.

    你現在情緒上也相當脆弱。

  • Use these people's support.

    善用這些人的幫助。

  • Let them remind you why you should be treated well.

    你得讓人告訴你,你值得被好好對待。

  • You deserved to be in a company of people who actually care about your safety.

    陪伴你的人應該要真心關心你的安全。

  • After all, this situation is not your fault.

    畢竟,陷入這種狀況不是你的錯。

  • It has everything to do with your partner’s emotional problems.

    這完全是你交往對象的個人情緒問題。

  • Something you cannot even begin to fix.

    你完全無計可施。

  • Step 3: Plan a safe break up.

    第三點:安全的分手計畫。

  • Tell people close to youfamily, friends that youre planning on getting out of this relationship.

    跟親近的人說,跟家人朋友說你想走出這段關係的人。

  • Be as honest with them as possible and tell them that youre going to need their help in the coming weeks.

    盡可能對他們誠實,告知他們在接下來幾週你需要他們的幫助。

  • Next, figure out how youre gonna deliver the news.

    接著,想清楚要如何跟危險情人說。

  • if youre scared of your partner’s reaction, you do not have to do this in person.

    如果擔心他反應過激,甚至可以不用當面分手。

  • Again, normal healthy relationship rules, do not apply here.

    重申一次,正常交往原則不適用於此。

  • If you do decide to meet in person, please bring someone with you and do it in public.

    若你決定當面說清楚,請找人一起去,並約在公共場合。

  • This should be a short conversation.

    跟他長話短說就好。

  • Explain that youre leaving and explain whyonce!

    跟他說你要分手,解釋原因,說一次就夠了!

  • It’s your decision, not your partner’s.

    這是你的決定,不是他的。

  • Don’t change your story. Make excuses or apologize.

    不要亂編故事、找藉口或是道歉。

  • Then, leave quickly.

    講完掉頭就走。

  • Take your army. Go do something that makes you feel happy and healthy with the people that you love.

    帶著你的軍隊與你愛的人做些快樂、健康的活動。

  • Four: Turn to someone who’s in a position to help you out.

    第四點:向相關人士求援。

  • There are a lot of great resources out there for this type of situation.

    有很多單位專門協助這種狀況。

  • Again, you don’t have to go through this alone.

    記得,你不用孤軍奮戰。

  • Reach out to people you trust.

    向你信任的人求助。

  • All the better for someone who has experience or ability to help you.

    最好找有類似經驗或著有能力幫忙的人。

  • If youre too scared to talk to someone you know, contact one of these three resources.

    如果不敢跟認識的人說,可以聯絡以下三個單位。

  • Ahh! Well. That’s all for me to do, Wellcasters!

    呼!我能分享的也就是這些了!

  • Would you do me a kindness?

    麻煩幫我個忙好嗎?

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    訂閱我們的頻道。

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    訂閱電子報以接收最新的酷炫知識。

  • See you later!

    我們下次見囉!

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