字幕列表 影片播放 列印英文字幕 Hello And Welcome To Success Formulas 6 Signs someone is a fake friend Friendships are great. They add value and beauty to life. At least, true friendships do. Fake friends are destructive. They are also sometimes hard to recognize. You can have a friend for years before realizing they are not sincere. Here are 6 signs someone is a fake friend: No1: They use you and then disappear when you need them You can recognize a fake friend by them often taking advantage of you. Do you have a friend that calls you only when they need a favor? You haven't heard from them for over a month and one day they call and ask if you can help them move. This is a clear sign you have a fake friend that doesn't want your company. He or she just wants to use you. And when you need a favor, they are most likely to make some lame excuse. Either their mother asked them to have dinner with her, or they are “simply swamped”the day you asked them to drive you to the airport. They see your need as a nuisance because they are not your true friend. They just want to get the most of they can out of you and give you nothing back in return. No2: They are secretly competing with you You and your friend have a secret competition going on that you might not be aware of. They're unhealthily competitive with you and always try to outrun you every chance they get. Sure, they might seem happy for you, but they will always find a subtle way to dampen your spirits. Every achievement you make is a challenge to them, not a success they should celebrate with you. If you talk about your raise, they will try to top that and talk about how they are earning much more money than you from the start. If you buy a new phone, they will buy a better one. If you take up a new hobby, they will take it up too with the exclusive intention of becoming better at it than you. And if they can't be better than you, they will spoil your excitement. They always try to downplay your success and act envious whenever good things happen to you. True friends will always be happy for you because they value your happiness as much as their own. Fake friends always want to be better than you. No3: They get defensive if you tell them they upset you When you tell a true friend that they did something that upset you, they will apologize and try to correct it. But, if you tell a fake friend the same thing, they will get overly defensive to the point where they may even attack you in return. You will hear something along the lines of “How dare you even think that hideous thing” or “What kind of a person do you think I am”. They will even start fabricating lies to make you feel like you're the one who's in the wrong, and then stop talking to you for a while. This is because they don't care about you or what they did wrong to you. No4: Everything is about them One big telltale sign that someone is a fake friend is that they are very egocentric. Everything has to be about them and they will not be all that interested in what you are talking about. Do you have a friend that just doesn't listen to you? They perhaps tap away on their phone while you're talking or they change the subject. They look bored until you start talking about something related to them. They rarely ask how you are doing or what's going on in your life. Another sign they don't care and don't listen to you is that they will rarely mention something you've told them in the past. You will not hear them say things like "Let's go watch that comedy movie because I remember you said you like comedy." Or "I made these cookies without peanuts because I remember you told me you were allergic." They are clearly selfish and self-centered, and there is no place for you in their lives. No5: Their friendship is conditional Sincere friends love you and stick with you no matter what. On the other hand, the friendship of a fake friend is always conditional. You are friends, but there are conditions. Conditions are often standards that they expect you to adhere to. A conditional friendship is when your friend expects you to behave the certain way, dress the way they want, make a certain amount of money if you want to be their friend. If you have a friend that won't be your friend unless you're wealthy or famous, that's a conditional friendship. Or they'll be your friend as long as you behave the way they want. And if you change and don't behave or do as they demand, they will resent you or even abandon you without a moment's notice. No6: They put you down Real friends always support you. Fake friends don't miss a chance to put you down. They insult you or belittle you and your success. Nothing you do is good enough for them. Your graduation is nothing special or your promotion is undeserved. They are constantly criticizing you for no other reason than to make you feel bad about yourself. They may make it sound like playful teasing but it is obvious that they really mean it. They also don't stop even when you complain about it. They may even take the opportunity to put you down once more by pointing out that you are too sensitive or even weak. True friends will never do anything to hurt you purposely because they genuinely care about you. Fake friends don't value you, so they have no problem with putting you down. If you've had a fake friend before, how did you recognize it? Share your story with us in the comment section. Before you leave, our team will be very happy if you can give this video a thumbs up. Remember to subscribe, and click the notification bell so that you can be notified every time we upload a new video. Thank you for watching, and see you in our next video!