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  • If you are at first lonely, be patient.

  • If you've not been alone much, or if when you were and you were not okay

  • with it, then just wait.

  • You'll find it's fine to be alone once you're embracing it.

  • We can start with the acceptable places, the bathroom,

  • the coffee shop, the library,

  • where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit

  • and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell

  • the books, you're not supposed to talk much anyway so

  • it's safe there. There is also the gym,

  • if you're shy, you can hang out with yourself and mirrors,

  • you can put headphones in. There's public transportation,

  • we all gotta go places. And there's prayer and mediation,

  • no one will think less if your hanging with your breath,

  • seeking peace and salvation. Start simple.

  • Things you may have previously avoided, based on avoid being alone principles.

  • The lunch counter, where you will be surrounded by "chow downers",

  • employees who only have an hour and their spouses work across town,

  • and so they, like you,

  • will be alone. Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.

  • When you are comfortable with

  • "eat lunch and run", take yourself out for dinner to a restaurant

  • with linen and silverware. You're no less intriguing a person

  • when you are eating solo desert and cleaning the whipped cream from the dish with your finger.

  • In fact, some people at full tables will wish they were where you were.

  • Go to the movies where it's dark and soothing, alone in your seat amidst fleeting community.

  • And then take yourself out dancing, to a club where no one knows you,

  • stand on the outside of the floor until the lights convince you more and more

  • and the music shows you. Dance like no one's watching because they

  • are probably not. And if they are,

  • assume it is with best human intentions. The way bodies move,

  • genuinely move to beats, after-all,

  • is gorgeous and affecting. Dance till you're sweating.

  • And beads of perspiration remind you of life's best things.

  • Down your back, like a book of blessings.

  • Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for

  • you. Go to an unfamiliar city,

  • roam the streets, they are always statues to talk to,

  • and benches made for sitting give strangers a shared existence

  • if only for a minute, these moments can be so uplifting

  • and the conversation you get in by sitting alone on benches,

  • might have never happened had you not been there by yourself.

  • Society is afraid of alone though. Like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements.

  • Like people must have problems if after awhile no one is dating them. But lonely is

  • a freedom that breathes easy and weightless, and lonely is healing if you make it.

  • You can stand swathed by groups and mobs and hands with your partner, look both further

  • and farther in the endless quest for company. But no one is in your head.

  • And by the time you translate your thoughts, an essence of them may be lost or perhaps

  • it is just kept. Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself,

  • perhaps all those sappy slogans from pre-school over to high schools groaning,

  • are tokens for holding the lonely at bay. 'Cause if you're happy in your head,

  • and solitude is blessed, and alone is okay.

  • It's okay if no one believes like you, all experiences unique,

  • no one has the same synapses can't think like you,

  • this be me. It keeps things interesting;

  • life's magic things are rich. And it doesn't mean you aren't connected,

  • the community is not present, just take the perspective you get

  • from being one person in one head and feel the effects of it.

  • Take silence and respect it, if you have an art that needs practice stop

  • neglecting it, if your family doesn't get you or a religious

  • sect is not meant for you, don't obsess about it.

  • You could be, in an instant,

  • surrounded if you need it, if your heart is bleeding,

  • make the best of it, there is heat in freezing.

  • Be a testament.

If you are at first lonely, be patient.


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如何獨處 (How to Be Alone)

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    Ya Hui Chang 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日