字幕列表 影片播放 列印英文字幕 I have a tendency to not speak up in conversations when I feel uncomfortable. Like, sometimes I'll be talking to someone and they'll say something that's just a little... off. "Oh my god, you know what I wish we could do? I wish we could just kill off all the homeless people." "Right? Like that would be the best solution for them. It's like, they don't have homes. Nobody's gonna miss them!" Or inappropriate. "It's just like so hard being a straight white dude these days, man. You're so lucky you're a minority. Like, you'd stand out." Or sometimes, just pretty stupid. "I don't want to break up, I just want to like move out, but like we can still go on dates, it's just that like, I don't want to have to devote every night to you. It's basically like, like I want my cake, and I want to eat it too, and then I want to take a piece home and then put it in the freezer for later so I can bust it out and put like chocolate fudge and strawberries and some skittles on there, and then have it with a glass of wine while I like binge a new series." But lately, I feel like I have no fucks left at all, like normally when you have a fuck to give, you distribute that. Right? Like you care about what people think, and you try to act accordingly. I think I'm all out. Exhibit A, the other day, at a bar, this guy said, "Oh, excuse me doll." Without even missing a beat, I immediately responded: "Oh, no worries doll." Yeah, normally, would never do that. I didn't even think about it, I didn't even blink. Exhibit B, at lunch, my friend said, "Dude, I fucking hate that bitch." Oh no. Normally, I would let that pass because it's awkward, I don't want to address it. But since I have no fucks left... "Dude, you are so harsh on women." "Yeah, well whatever. She cheated on me." "So? You cheated on her too! And it was like four years ago!" Let it go, man. And don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that I just want to like speak my mind with no filter whatsoever. I think that my default is trying to be "nice" to avoid awkwardness, and instead I want to focus on being kind. Whether I'm being kind to myself for voicing my opinion when I think this conversation is weird, or kind to the other person because maybe they legit don't realize how weird it is for them to suggest that we kill all homeless people. This isn't the Hunger Games. Why are you suggesting mass murder of a bunch of people who are probably the majority of them are mentally ill or have substance abuse problems. And I encourage you to ask yourself, like what would you say if you weren't afraid of rocking the boat, and instead committed to actually voicing the opinions that you have in a conversation. Or maybe you're a person who is never afraid to say anything at all. Maybe that gets you into trouble. Let me know. I'm Anna Akana, stay awesome Gotham. I just want to say, thank you so much to Squarespace for like sponsoring today's episode. It's not like I don't like you anymore, it's just that like with Squarespace, they have all these beautiful and like award winning templates on their all-in-one platform, which means I never have to like install, patch or upgrade like ever. Plus it's like you're not really emotionally available, but if I send Squarespace a text at 3 am and I'm like, "Hey baby, are you up?" They're like, "Yes, we are." Because their customer service is 24/7. Like wow. Not to mention if I like need a new domain name or something, they give me like a really unique and like simple setup experience, which is like really nice of them. So if I like want to make a website for like my modeling career, or if I want to make a website for my photographing career. I can do like either of those all on Squarespace. So, I mean. I'm gonna go get a free trial with them at squarespace.com and use the offer code "Anna" for 10% off. But like I still really love you, but I think it's better if we just both go to Squarespace and use the offer code Anna for 10% off for first purchases. I still want to be friends, though.