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  • Hey Ambitious Professionals!

  • It's Linda Raynier of lindaraynier.com guiding you to a career and life you'll truly enjoy.

  • And in today's video I'm gonna teach you 4 key tips on how you can reduce your level

  • of shyness when talking to people whether it's your boss, your co-workers or anyone

  • you meet in a professional setting.

  • Now as a Career Strategist I've had the honor of being able to help numerous professionals

  • land their dream job offers.

  • So if this is something that you're interested in working with me one-on-one I can give you

  • details about that at the end of this video.

  • When I asked corporate professionals what it is that tends to hold them back from getting

  • the jobs that they want or from developing deeper relationships with others at work I

  • tend to hear: "I'm really shy", "I don't know how to talk to people well", "I get nervous",

  • "I just don't know what to say".

  • If this is you know that this is completely normal.

  • Shyness is a completely natural reaction and you shouldn't beat yourself up because you

  • tend to be shy in front of others.

  • So today I'm gonna help you to understand where I believe your shyness really comes

  • from and my four tips on how you can overcome it in society a lot of us tend to think of

  • people as people who are gentle who are sweet who are nice kind of fragile but of course

  • they just don't talk a lot because they're shy and that may or may not be true and if

  • you're someone who shy you may have those qualities as well maybe you were born into

  • a certain culture or society where you were raised to believe that you need to be humble

  • you need to be conservative and you can't be too extroverted because that's not a quality

  • that is good to have in that certain culture society and as a result of that you've become

  • this person who is shy but here's the thing that you really should know shyness is something

  • that can be learned and practice over time yes you may have a tendencies to be shy but

  • that's because you've practiced it all your life so if you wanna stop being shy you can

  • you just simply have to even learn it from within yourself and here's a Fact that once

  • you realize that this is true for you if you're someone who's shy will actually help you to

  • really learn and eliminate the shy tendencies and here it is the reason why you are shy

  • and why you tend to have trouble connecting with others when you're talking to people

  • is because you're current attention isn't on that other person that you're talking to

  • but instead your way to focus on yourself you're saying I don't think they like me I

  • don't know how to talk to them I'm worried what they think of me right now I hope I don't

  • say the wrong thing and with all of these worries and thoughts you cut yourself off

  • from being able to have a truly meaningful conversation with this other person because

  • you're way too consumed with yourself and if you were to be honest with yourself I know

  • that you would agree with me you're way too lost in your own head with your own thoughts

  • about yourself so now that you know why and where your shyness comes from let's talk about

  • how you can help yourself to overcome it so The solution to stop being shy tip number

  • one is to adopt a curious mind set when you're in a situation where you're talking to other

  • people shift your focus away from yourself from your own fears and nervousness away from

  • you and towards the other person shift your focus to the other person this may sound silly

  • but a good way to think of it is act as though you're almost a news reporter and you're trying

  • to interview someone and you're trying to get information for a new segment that you're

  • doing as a news reporter Adopt a curious mind set because you wanna know more about that

  • other person that you're talking to so by adopting a curious mind set you were able

  • to engage with them you're asking them questions you're wanting to learn more about them and

  • your full energy is focused on learning about that other person so when you're at the office

  • and you come across a coworker just ask them questions like whether they up to what are

  • they're doing you know what are they working on what are they eating and you wanna ask

  • from a genuine Curiosity not from a place of I'm asking these questions because I wanna

  • be accepted this number two is to elaborate on your responses when someone asked you questions

  • don't just give them one word answers for example if they asked you are you enjoying

  • the work that you're doing don't just say yes and leave it at that say yes I'm enjoying

  • the work that I'm doing because of reason number one and reason number two and maybe

  • even reason number three and this leads me to tip number three which is have a Another

  • way to connect with the other person is instead of just giving them one word answers or just

  • giving them a couple of sentences have a story to share have a story that you can tell them

  • about that relates to the exact topic that the both of you are talking about as humans

  • we love to hear stories and when you're able to share a story that is meaningful to whatever

  • it is that you're talking about with another person you're able to engage them further

  • and this is what develops your bond with the other person in a closer way so the three

  • components to a good story include the situation setting up Telling them what happened in that

  • situation what was going wrong what were the issues how you were feeling and how they were

  • feeling then move on to telling them about what you did as a result of that situation

  • what you were your action steps and then finally what was the end results and finally with

  • tip number four be present and listen intently have you ever been in a situation where you

  • are talking to someone they ask you a question and you're answering their question but you

  • can tell that they're not even really listening to your answer there just waiting for you

  • to finish talking so that they can jump in and ask you another question don't do that

  • don't Be waiting for them to finish answering your previous question just to ask them another

  • question because they'll know that you didn't actually listen to what they said here's a

  • fact people usually can tell when you're not listening to them and when you're lost in

  • your own thoughts as much as you may think that you're good at disguising it is quite

  • noticeable for most of us and here's a quote that I think is very fitting for this topic

  • and it is quote by isaac Newton and he says we build too many walls and not enough bridges

  • so there you have it my four tips on how you can overcome shyness and start building bridges

  • with other people now if you're someone who's been looking for a new career who's been searching

  • for Position and you haven't been getting much luck with your interviews and with your

  • resume and you realize that you need one on one guidance then feel free to reach out to

  • me head on over to my website lindaraynier.com/standoutgethired read through the page fill out the application

  • form and if my team and I feel that we're a match then we will reach out to you directly

  • if you like this video and please give it a thumbs up subscribe share with your friends

  • thank you so much for watching and I will see you in the next video

Hey Ambitious Professionals!

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