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  • Here's a simple formula that helps me think about stress in an intuitive way:

  • Stress = unsatisfied desire * t = (want / have) * t

  • So there are two key ways to increase stress: want more than you have, and increase the

  • time it takes to get what you want.

  • Using this formula as a foundation, here are seven rules to maximize misery and stress.

  • (1) Desire to be there, not here.

  • Before we can maximize stress, we have to create it, and we can create it by wanting

  • what we don't currently have.

  • In other words, desire to be there, not here.

  • Where is there?

  • There is anywhere but here.

  • There is that place where you have more: more money, more intelligence, someone else's

  • love, the approval of others, status, beauty, and fame.

  • It's that magical destination that you're always running towards.

  • But desiring to be there isn't going to bring misery on its own.

  • Sometimes we actually get there, and overcoming the stress involved brings growth, transformation,

  • and pleasure.

  • So to achieve chronic stress and misery, we have to learn to never get there, to never

  • stop running.

  • We have to learn to create an unquenchable thirst.

  • (2) Never learn from your mistakes, or better yet, repeat them.

  • Once you desire to be there, it's very important that you never arrive.

  • In fact, the further you can move away from there the better.

  • Make random prediction about how to get there.

  • Stop doing all of the things that move you towards it and repeat the things that move

  • you further away.

  • Through trial, error, and refinement, you can create a self-improving process that moves

  • you further and further away from your destination.

  • But it's important to hope that things will suddenly and randomly change for the better.

  • Nothing causes misery quite like having your hopes crushed over and over again.

  • If you somehow manage to get there, realize that there is now here.

  • And if you're following Rule 1, you must refuse to be happy here, find a new there,

  • and begin the process all over again.

  • There is always another there to go to, always.

  • (3) Be ungrateful.

  • Remove the word enough from your vocabulary and replace it with more.

  • Pursue more money, more knowledge, more beauty, more status, more fame, and more approval.

  • Create an unquenchable thirst inside of yourself, and be like a dog chasing its own tail, always

  • grasping for something, but never quite getting it.

  • Refuse to enjoy simple pleasures like a sunny day, a nice meal, or a good joke, because

  • that might convince you it's okay to be right here, right now.

  • Travel from destination to destination, never stopping to smell the roses along the way.

  • Sure, reaching the last ten destinations never made you feel as good as you thought it would,

  • but reaching the next one will.

  • (4) Be arrogant.

  • To get what you don't have, you have to learn something new, and all learning begins

  • in humility: knowing that you don't already know.

  • So to maximize stress and misery, be arrogant.

  • If you already believe you know everything, you'll never actually learn anything, and

  • this will make sure you never reach your destination.

  • But theres more to being arrogant than believing you know everything.

  • Realize that you are the centre of the universe, and everything depends on whether or not you

  • get to where you are going.

  • Treat people like tools that either help or hinder you on your journey.

  • Take yourself very seriously, constantly talk about how you're going there, and take no

  • interest in the lives of others.

  • This will be a good way to get rid of meaningful relationships that might otherwise challenge

  • you to grow, keep you grounded, support you in trying times, and make life worth living,

  • here and now.

  • (5) Ruminate endlessly.

  • Do you believe we think to enhance our experience of life?

  • That mistakes are meant to be learned from and not dwelt upon?

  • Well, think again.

  • The purpose of thinking is to needlessly stress yourself out and fill your life with misery.

  • Ruminate on your past mistakes, do nothing about them, and don't learn from them.

  • Desire to change what can never be changed.

  • Think about the distant and unreasonable goals you have, and reflect on how inadequate your

  • life is in comparison.

  • Instead of using your imagination to grow as a person and enhance your experience of

  • life, let it make you miserable.

  • Create elaborate, irrational stories in your head that are not based on reality.

  • For example, assume that the person you like doesn't like you, even though you have no

  • real proof that they do or don't.

  • If you actually went and talked to them first, instead of creating stories about it, you

  • might actually get what you wantso don't do that.

  • Instead, create a grand story about why they would never like you, based on nothing, so

  • you can live in a world where you can never have what you want.

  • In other words, you can live in a mental prison of your own making.

  • (6) Don't live sustainably.

  • You can either sacrifice the future for the present or the present for the future, but

  • don't you dare live sustainably.

  • Instead of finding meals that are both healthy and enjoyable, eat junk food that tastes good

  • now in exchange for your future health.

  • Or go the other way and eat really bland, healthy food.

  • Do this until you hate your life, break down, and binge on junk food again.

  • Watch TV or play video games for eight hours a day until you feel like you've accomplished

  • nothing productive.

  • Then work non-stop for a few days until you feel like a soulless robot who never has any

  • fun and just lives to work.

  • Cycle back and forth between sacrificing the present for the future or the future for the

  • present.

  • This will keep you in a cycle of self-sabotage, ensuring that you always want what you don't

  • have but never achieve it.

  • (7) Keep people who follow the other principles around you.

  • Now that you're sufficiently stressed out and miserable, it's time to take the final

  • step: keep people who follow the other six principles around you.

  • If everyone around you thinks the same, you'll never realize there's a different way to

  • think.

  • And if you somehow try to turn your life around, if you even dare to climb out of this hole

  • of misery and stress, others will grab you by the foot and yank you back down.

  • Or better yet, they'll make you feel crazy for thinking differently, and you'll jump

  • back into the hole on your own just to feel sane.

Here's a simple formula that helps me think about stress in an intuitive way:

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如何將痛苦和壓力最大化 (How to Maximize Misery and Stress)

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