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  • Hello wonderful humans, welcome back to The Bliss Bean! So I get a lot of

  • questions that sound something like "How do you stay motivated to be so

  • productive all the time? How do you not run out of motivation?" and initially when

  • I wanted to make this video titled "motivation vs. self-discipline"

  • I was just basically going to say that you need to develop your self discipline

  • because motivation won't always be there for you, and that is like the most cliche

  • message ever, so thank goodness I didn't end up making the video that way, because

  • what happened was, the more I thought about it the more I realized that I

  • don't actually use that much self-discipline in my day-to-day life.

  • Sure, there are things that I do that require self-discipline, like not

  • checking notifications in the morning, eating healthily, or waking up early

  • every morning. But for every single one of those acts of willpower I can also

  • tell you how I've designed my life to make that better choice easier to make.

  • Before I go to bed I set my phone to Do Not Disturb so that I don't see any

  • notifications on my lock screen in the morning. I have a bunch of favorite

  • healthy recipes that I love to make and eat, and I have a morning routine that

  • actually kind of makes me want to get out of bed because I know that I can

  • enjoy some quiet time in the morning before I get into doing any kind of work.

  • So I realized that it's not just discipline and motivation, it's not one

  • or the other, there's a whole third layer to this question and that's what this

  • video is about, so in this video we're going to break down - what is motivation?

  • what is self-discipline? how do they work? and how do we design a life that

  • maximizes our motivation, and minimizes our need to rely on self-discipline? So

  • let's start with motivation. Feeling motivated is pretty amazing, I'm sure I

  • don't have to tell you that. That burst of energy that you get when you get a

  • new idea for a new project, or that feeling after you get a good night's

  • sleep and you just feel ready to take on the world.

  • Motivation combined with focused action can create some serious magic, so it's

  • definitely worth taking some time to learn and understand the patterns of

  • your own motivation. For example, I study languages in the morning because that's

  • when I consistently feel the most motivated to do it, and I work out in the afternoon

  • or evening because I do not feel motivated to do that in the morning at

  • all. So yeah, a lot of people on the internet wake up at the crack of dawn to

  • do morning workouts, but I know that this works for me, so I choose to do something

  • different. As you go through life, I encourage you to have almost the

  • attitude of a scientist. If you notice that you never feel motivated to clean

  • the house Sunday evening, this week maybe try doing it Saturday morning. Maybe you'll

  • just realize you were too tired on Sunday evenings and now you'll no longer

  • have to force yourself to clean. If you notice you dread going on runs,

  • maybe it's the activity you're not motivated about, and you can find a

  • different path to the same end goal, which is fitness, and maybe try a group

  • exercise class or something. Motivation, however, is also a very fleeting thing.

  • Oftentimes we have no idea why it comes and goes at certain times and sometimes

  • even our favorite activities suddenly become the last thing that we want to do,

  • so relying solely on motivation to power you through life is not the best idea.

  • Once that initial spark of energy fades, you'll give up on your good progress and

  • just end up feeling bad again because you gave up. So may I introduce you to

  • our good friend self-discipline. Self-discipline comes in when you are

  • lacking motivation. Self-discipline is not a very fun word because it generally

  • implies doing not fun things because you logically know that they are good for

  • you. I think a better, more empowering way to think of self-discipline is as a tool

  • that will help you get to your goals and get you to your dream life, so try to

  • really pay attention to how you feel after practicing self-discipline. For

  • example, after a workout that maybe you really didn't feel like doing, how

  • amazing does it feel to be riding that endorphin high afterwards, feeling really

  • proud of yourself? Maybe even write that down so that then in the future you can

  • call on that feeling and think about how that simple act of self-discipline will

  • make you feel really good in the near or far future. Another tip for exercising

  • self-discipline is to give yourself as little time to negotiate with yourself

  • as possible. A great summary of this is the five-second rule by Mel Robbins. In

  • her book, The Five-Second Rule, she explains - "The moment you have an instinct

  • to act on a goal you must five-four-three-two-one and physically

  • move or your brain will stop you." That's what it takes to get what you want.

  • Not big scary beeps once a year, it takes small but irritating moves every single

  • day. But as much as self-discipline can make you accomplish some pretty amazing

  • things, we also can't rely a hundred percent on self-discipline. I think this

  • is very similar to decision fatigue - the deteriorating quality of decisions made

  • by an individual after a long session of decision-making. So similarly, with

  • practicing self-discipline, if you're going through your day making good

  • choices over and over, but really having to like force yourself to do every

  • single one of those things, you're probably gonna end the day feeling a

  • little bit drained. So if motivation doesn't do the trick

  • and neither does self-discipline, what do we do, Beatrice? I'm glad you asked. I

  • think a good term for it is "life design". The key to living a life where you're

  • motivated as often as possible and have to rely on your self-discipline as

  • rarely as possible, is designing your surroundings, your environment, your

  • schedule, etc, so that making the good decisions is as easy as possible. I think

  • the best way to demonstrate this is with a few examples of common goals that

  • people have, so first off, healthy eating. So I don't mind eating healthy because I

  • absolutely love the food that I eat, and I don't talk about that often because I

  • don't want people to be like okay we get it, Beatrice, you like eating

  • vegetables, wow you're sooooo healthy *rolls eyes* But I just think the mindset that

  • healthy food has to be less delicious is so harmful. Rather than just accepting

  • that changing our eating habits means exercising our self-discipline and

  • crying over a dry bowl of salad every day for the rest of our lives, how can we

  • instead design a life where healthy eating is not just easy, but, dare I say

  • it, enjoyable? For one, you can find recipes that are delicious to you, they

  • definitely exist. There are healthy dishes that I don't enjoy eating,

  • anything with celery, for example, so I just don't eat that and there are a gajillion

  • other foods that are healthy that I love. We can also work on changing

  • our eating preferences through what I like to call an "initial

  • investment of self-discipline". I did the Whole30 eating challenge back in

  • February, and yes, it did take some self-discipline to complete, but I feel

  • like now I'm reaping the rewards of it, because I used to be someone who loved

  • any breakfast that was sweet and grain-based, but now I actually wake up

  • every morning craving eggs with vegetables and avocado on toast.

  • I couldn't have toast on the Whole30, but whatever, but the point is

  • that because I used some self-discipline initially to get myself to like the food,

  • I now just feel motivated to eat that kind of food. Another thing we can do is

  • remove temptations by not buying unhealthy treats at the store. When I was

  • doing the Whole30 the only time that I ever craved non-compliant food

  • was if it was literally right in front of me, so if we didn't have cookies at

  • home, I didn't crave cookies, and so I didn't have to exercise the

  • self-discipline to resist the pull of cookies, because they just weren't there.

  • Another goal people often set is to exercise more. Instead of dreading every

  • single time that we put sneakers on, how can we instead design our life so that

  • we enjoy exercise more? So first of all, find workouts that you like. If you don't

  • like yoga or weightlifting, try biking, or hiking, or rock wall climbing, or Zumba, or

  • kickboxing, or learning kpop dances. And again, just like with eating, we can

  • train ourselves to change our workout preferences. So I used to hate running. I

  • would dread every single time that we had to run the mile in gym class, and so I

  • decided to do the logical thing for someone who hates running, which is to

  • train to run a 5k. I did the Couch to 5k program, on many days it sucked, but I

  • finished it. It really built up my running stamina and

  • eventually I found that once I actually got to a point where I could do some running

  • without feeling like I was dying, I kind of started to see why people enjoyed

  • running, and so now I'm not like, a "runner" I wouldn't say, but I've included it as

  • part of my exercise repertoire, it's something that I genuinely enjoy

  • sometimes... sometimes. Maybe you're someone who would benefit from a group exercise

  • format, so I love kickboxing classes first of all because there's so many

  • people, the music's loud and there's a lot of energy, but also because I'm

  • motivated to hang in there simply because I don't want anyone to see me

  • leaving, so then that gives me energy to finish the rest of the workout. And one

  • last example of applying life design to a goal is if your goal is to learn

  • something. First of all, pick something that you're genuinely interested in

  • learning, that's why I'm currently studying Korean ,why I read books about

  • self-improvement and not organic chemistry. And then create a schedule for

  • yourself. The thing about school is that it happens on a fixed schedule and class

  • starts whether or not you're feeling motivated for it,

  • so once you're out of school, or maybe you're still in school but there's

  • something else that you're passionate about and you want to learn about, you

  • have to create that structure for yourself. So for me that meant two hours

  • a day, first thing in the morning to study Korean, three hours a week for

  • reading, and lately I've been wanting to get better and more thoughtful about my

  • social media posting, so I also blocked out two hours, two chunks of time, for

  • taking a Skillshare course about social media. Skillshare is an online learning

  • community with thousands of classes on everything from illustration and graphic

  • design to entrepreneurship to marketing, so when you're applying life design to

  • learning, you don't just want to sit around waiting for the motivation to

  • strike, but you also don't want to force yourself at the end of a long day when

  • you're tired and have no energy to go learn, because that'll just make you

  • dislike learning. So what you can do is you can design your life by creating a

  • schedule for learning. That way you make time for it when you know you're likely

  • to be motivated, you make a habit out of it, and you just don't have to think

  • about it as much, it almost happens automatically because

  • it's on your schedule. The nice thing with Skillshare classes is that it's

  • really structured and you can see exactly how long these lessons are. Each

  • class is a combination of video lessons and in-class projects, so then you can

  • literally go to your calendar and be like, okay, this class that I took is

  • called Social Media for the Creative Entrepreneur by Peggy Dean, this is 44

  • minutes long with ten lessons, so I'll do five lessons Tuesday, five lessons

  • Thursday, and use the remaining hour of each day to work on the projects and

  • apply what I learned to my own blogging. So for example on Tuesday I learned

  • about using hashtags, and previously on Instagram I would just copy over pretty

  • much the same hashtags every time, not really thinking much about it, but after

  • this lesson, I really paused to take the time to find some hashtags that were not

  • only really relevant to my content but also very specific with high engagement.

  • Learning through Skillshare is a really good way to keep learning and

  • discovering in a structured way because obviously we don't always have the

  • motivation to learn, but having this dedicated place to go to where the

  • entire lesson plan is already laid out for you means you don't need as much

  • motivation to get going. Skillshare Premium is less than ten

  • dollars a month with an annual subscription, and the first 1,000 of my

  • subscribers to click the link in the description will get a two month free

  • trial of premium membership so that you can explore your creativity. So now that

  • you've seen a few examples of life design in action, I hope you're starting

  • to get some ideas for how you can design your environment and design your

  • surroundings to achieve the life and the goals that you want to achieve. Now I'm

  • not saying that you can design a perfect life where everything just happens

  • automatically, you'll still need self-discipline and you'll still need

  • motivation, but you'll be so much better equipped to handle the natural ebbs and

  • flows. I hope you enjoyed this video, if you're interested in delving deeper into

  • this and learning more about how to design a life that makes being

  • productive easy, I'm currently working on a course that will be coming out at the end of

  • the month, so if you're interested in just being notified about that once

  • there's more information, I have a link in the description where you can put in

  • your email. Other than that, thank you for watching, be sure to like this video and

  • subscribe to my channel, and I will see you next week. Bye!

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