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  • Hey everyone, welcome back to Psych2go. Thank you for all the support and love you've given us^^ Now, let's begin.

  • Are your friendships or relationships

  • usually short-lived? If yes,

  • What do you think could be the underlying reason? What sorts of beliefs do you have about friendships and relationships?

  • Are those beliefs accurate, or are they distorted? When your beliefs are distorted,

  • it can lead you to behaviors that sabotage your friendships and leave you neglecting yourself. In this video,

  • we will be covering five distorted beliefs that will ruin your friendships and relationships.

  • One: Am I replaceable? If you have ever felt replaced in a friendship or relationship before, you are not alone.

  • However, having the belief that you will always be replaced in future friendships or relationships

  • may not be emotionally healthy for you.

  • Many of us hold on to this belief due to the fear of similar past experiences repeating itself.

  • But is it really helpful?

  • Who knows? You might meet new friends or a special person who truly appreciates and treasures you for who you really are.

  • Two: I am meant to be alone

  • Do you subconsciously tell yourself you're destined to be alone after difficult friendships or failed relationships?

  • This belief of feeling like you are destined to be alone can be derived from the difficulty in communicating your thoughts and emotions

  • which can result in feelings of loneliness.

  • If you feel like you are meant to be alone, you are not. You deserve to have friends or family who care about you.

  • Three: Assuming they do not care

  • Adopting this belief can be detrimental to friendships and relationships as there is a presence of assumptions, mistrust, and

  • Miscommunication which could lead to disagreements. At times, your friends may give you the impression that they do not care----

  • However, it may not always be the case.

  • Different people show care differently, and different people have their own definitions of feeling cared for.

  • Four: Assuming they understand you

  • Are you guilty of not communicating how you truly feel or think directly to others

  • because you assume that they are able to read your mind and understand you--?

  • Assumptions create uncertainty, and we may end up creating false scenarios in our minds which may lead to further

  • misunderstanding. Even the most intuitive people are not mind readers.

  • Lastly: I am unlovable

  • Have you ever been labeled as unlovable or something similar by your parents, a lover, or ex-lover?

  • How did you feel when they said that?

  • This might cause you to internalize this belief and behave in a way that will sabotage your

  • relationships and friendships.

  • You are afraid to show others who you really are because you believe people would not like you if they knew the real you.

  • But do you really think this is true?

  • So, why do many of us have beliefs like this?

  • Studies done by the American Psychological Association

  • and others have shown that our brains are wired to think negatively, and it can be a form of a defense mechanism

  • One important thing to understand is that friendships or relationships

  • Can come and go due to different reasons.

  • Don't blame yourself too much if things do not work out.

  • It can be difficult to open up to new friends or partners due to negative past experiences.

  • But the right person will be accepting of your flaws, and inspire you to be a better person^^

  • How many of these beliefs were you able to relate to? How do you plan to challenge those beliefs?

  • Let us know in the comments below. Don't forget to share this video with someone who would find it helpful.

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  • And as always, thank you for watching^^

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5個會毀掉你的友誼和關係的信念 (5 Beliefs That Will Ruin Your Friendships & Relationships)

  • 7 1 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日