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  • Have you ever thought about why we make friends?

    你曾經想過我們為何要交朋友嗎?

  • After all, do we really need friends at all?

    畢竟,我們真的需要朋友嗎?

  • Couldn't we get along just fine by ourselves?

    難道我們不能只與自己相處就好了嗎?

  • Sure, we all like to be alone every now and then.

    沒錯,我們偶爾都喜歡獨自一人。

  • It can be nice to enjoy some peace and quiet or get some rest and relaxation without anyone else around.

    當身邊空無一人時,享受寧靜或休息放鬆一下,是一件很棒的事。

  • But for most of us, being alone gets lonely and after a while we start yearning (for) the company of other people.

    但對大部分的人來說,獨自一人時會感到寂寞,過一陣子後會開始渴望其他人的陪伴。

  • We are social creatures and derive a lot of our happiness through the relationships that we have developed.

    人類是社交性生物,透過發展出的關係中獲得許多快樂。

  • Scientists who have studied relationships in depth have found that people with good friends tend to live longer lives.

    深入研究人類關係的科學家發現,擁有好朋友的人會活得比較久。

  • They also tend to be healthier.

    他們也會比較健康。

  • Good relationships have been associated with lower levels of stress, decreased blood pressure, and a reduced risk of depression.

    好的友誼會減少壓力、降低血壓和減低憂鬱的風險。

  • So, let's reap the benefits and get you to make some new friends.

    交朋友讓你受益匪淺,接下來會教你如何教些新朋友。

  • First, you have to be social.

    首先,你得多去社交。

  • There is no way around this.

    除此之外,沒有其他方式。

  • If you just lay on your couch all day, isolating yourself and just playing video games, you won't meet any new people and therefore won't make any new friends.

    如果你孤立自己,整天躺在沙發上打電動,你就不會認識新朋友,也不會交到新朋友。

  • You need to get out and be social, okay?

    你必須出門社交好嗎?

  • Maybe being social to you means going to parties, maybe it means going to a coffee shop or maybe it means going to events, like concerts.

    對你來說,社交的意思可能是參加派對、去咖啡廳或參加活動如演唱會。

  • But the fact is in order to make new friends you need to be around potential friends.

    但事實是,為了交新朋友,你需要圍繞在潛在的朋友旁邊。

  • One of the best ways to do just that is to just join a club, group or organization of something that you enjoy doing.

    最佳的方式之一為參加你喜歡的社團或組織。

  • If you're going to go out and be social while doing something you like, guess what?

    如果你出門社交的同時做自己喜歡的事,猜猜看會如何?

  • You're going to be meeting people that also enjoy the things that you like and so it just kind of makes sense that friendships are going to form.

    你會認識與你喜歡同樣事物的人,所以友誼因此形成是很合理的。

  • To be interesting, be interested.

    對他人感興趣,讓他人對你感興趣。

  • People think you have to be super interesting to make friends, but that's simply not true.

    人們認為你對交朋友這件事有極大的興趣,但事實並非如此。

  • When talking to someone, just be genuinely interested in them, people love talking about themselves.

    與他人說話時,要真誠地對他們感到有興趣,人們喜愛談論自己。

  • They think the world revolves around them, so listen to the stories they have to tell since this will form deep roots of friendship.

    人們認為世界圍繞著自己打轉,所以聽他們所說的故事,因為這會為深厚的友誼打下基礎。

  • You and I both know people who blunder through life trying to wigwag other people into becoming interested in them.

    我們都知道有人在生活中跌跌撞撞地試著招引他人對自己感到有興趣。

  • Of course it doesn't work.

    這當然沒有用。

  • People are not interested in you.

    人們對你沒有興趣。

  • They are not interested in me.

    人們對我沒有興趣。

  • They are interested in themselves, morning, noon and after dinner.

    他們只對自己感興趣——無論是早上、中午或是晚餐後。

  • If we merely try to impress people and get people interested in us, we will never have many true, sincere friends, as they are not made that way.

    如果我們僅試著讓別人加深印象,並讓他們對我們感興趣,我們永遠交不到真心誠意的朋友,因為這不是交朋友的方式。

  • You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

    藉由對他人產生興趣的方式交到的朋友,會比試著讓他人對你產生興趣的方式交到的朋友,還要多得多。

  • So ask questions that the other person will enjoy answering and encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.

    問些會讓別人想要回答的問題,讓他們談論自己和自身成就。

  • Start a conversation with everyone.

    與每個人都展開談話。

  • Every single person that you come into contact with, ask them how they are doing and genuinely listen.

    詢問與你接觸的每一個人,問他們好不好,並真誠地聆聽他們說話。

  • So next time you hit the gym, make small talk with another regular there.

    下一次你去健身房時,與其他常客寒暄一下吧!

  • Talk about the weather, talk about that sporting event you went to over the weekend, but more importantly, ask them questions that will tell you more about them.

    談論天氣或談論你週末參加的體育活動,但最重要的是,問些會引發他人談論他們自己的問題。

  • For example, if they tell you they are going hiking on the weekend, ask them more about it.

    舉例來說,如果他們說週末的時候要去健行,詢問他們更多的資訊。

  • Where are they going?

    要去哪?

  • How long have they been doing it and are they going alone or with someone else?

    要去多久、一個人去還是跟別人一起去?

  • Next time you see them, ask them how that weekend hiking went.

    下一次見面時,再問他們週末健行的感想。

  • Usually a conversation where something sticks, leads to more conversations and suddenly you're making plans with the [sic] said person.

    通常一場對話會產生更多的談話,接著突然之間,你會跟對方一起計畫。

  • So make sure that you are constantly chatting up people, because that's where it all begins.

    確保自己有持續跟別人聊天,因為這是一切的開始。

  • And I know it sounds scary, because you feel like they might not reciprocate and that's okay.

    我知道聽起來很可怕,因為你覺得他人不會有所回應,但這沒有關係。

  • You are going to get rejected even in this process of making friends, so you have to develop a thick skin.

    即使是在這個交朋友的過程中,你也有可能會被拒絕,所以你的臉皮必須要厚一點才行。

  • It gets easier over time though, but you have to put yourself out there.

    這會隨著時間越變越容易的,但你得先踏出第一步。

  • Some people might just not like you and there is nothing wrong with that.

    有些人可能就是不喜歡你,這並沒有什麼不對。

  • You can't be friends with everybody, since we are all so different.

    你不可能跟每一個人都是朋友,因為大家的個性都不同。

  • But in the process of weeding out people you don't connect with, you will find people that you can connect (with) on all levels and that's how true friendships form.

    但在除去不合拍的人後,你會找到在各處都與你產生共鳴的人,這就是真友誼形成的方式。

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    感謝你的觀看。

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