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  • In your path to becoming a future doctor, one thing is for certain.

  • You will face the disappointment of failure on more than one occasion.

  • Whether that's performing poorly in a class, bombing your MCAT, or not getting accepted

  • to medical school the first time, you're not alone.

  • Here's what to do about it.

  • Dr Jubbal, MedSchoolInsiders.com.

  • For those of you who are subscribed to this channel and voted in the recent poll, this

  • one is dedicated to you.

  • You voted for this video, and here it is.

  • So thank you again for your support.

  • I've faced failure.

  • You've faced failure.

  • Our parents, friends, and even role models and celebrities have also faced failure.

  • If you're confronting failure right now, know that there is hope, and it does get better,

  • I promise.

  • And if you are not in the middle of a failure right now, keep these 7 steps in mind the

  • next time you or someone you care about is faced with failure.

  • The first step is acceptanceand no, we're not about to dive into the Kubler Ross 5 stages

  • of grief.

  • Without first accepting the facts, you're in no position to begin building yourself

  • back up and in a new direction.

  • Think of acceptance as the foundation upon which everything builds from.

  • What does acceptance look like?

  • Sometimes it means allowing your emotions to run their course.

  • I'm not saying take 6 months to be upset about getting rejected from medical school,

  • but I am saying that taking a few days, or even a few weeks, to sit with the facts and

  • allow your emotions to cool off is not a bad idea.

  • While you're ruminating on what happened, it's important to follow step number two.

  • Step two requires you to practice nuance in your self talk and the story you tell yourself

  • about what just happened.

  • To be successful in rebounding from failure, it's imperative that you do not confuse

  • identity with occurrence, meaning you do not confuse failing with being a failure.

  • Failing is something that happened, being a failure is taking on an identity.

  • And identities are incredibly powerful, so pick them wisely.

  • As Mark Manson writes in his recent book,

  • Your identity will stay your identity until a new experience acts against itWhen

  • you adopt these little narratives as your identity, you protect them and react emotionally

  • to them as though they were an inherent part of you.”

  • Just because you got a D in organic chemistry does't mean you're stupid and not good

  • enough to be a doctor.

  • It just means your performance in a challenging science class was subpar, and that you likely

  • weren't utilizing the proper study or test taking strategies.

  • And just because someone else got an A in the same class doesn't make them better

  • than you.

  • We all simply have different strengths and weaknesses, and what they find easy, you may

  • find difficult, and what you find easy, they may find difficult.

  • Failure should never be a part of your identity, but rather should be viewed as a necessary

  • part of the path to success.

  • Michael Jordan said it best:

  • “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career.

  • I have lost almost 300 games.

  • On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed.

  • I have failed over and over and over again in my life.

  • And that is why I succeed.”

  • Third, during your period of reflection and acceptance, it's important to reach out

  • to key people for support.

  • This can be friends, family, and mentors.

  • This step is often overlooked by macho men wanting to tell themselves that they don't

  • need helpbut isolation during a time of need can drastically worsen the outcome.

  • Talk things through, but on the other hand, don't use other people as a crutch to avoid

  • having to deal with your own emotions and the realities of what happened.

  • When reaching out for support, the aim is to help you accept the circumstances, understand

  • failing doesn't make you a failure, and get you in the proper mindset to take the

  • next steps.

  • After completing the first three steps, we've laid a foundation upon which we can build

  • something to guide us forward.

  • Step four is to get back in touch with your why, the greater purpose and larger vision

  • to your day to day tasks and projects.

  • Why are you going to college, why are you studying this particular degree?

  • Why do you want to go to medical school and become a doctor?

  • If yourwhyisn't bigger than yourself, it's less likely to endure the inevitable

  • obstacles in your path.

  • Mywhywas twofold: first, after experiencing the challenges of battling Crohn's colitis,

  • I was inspired to help children and adolescents with digestive issues.

  • Second, I chose to believe that getting ill at the pivotal time when I was deciding on

  • computer science versus medicine was part of a greater story to inspire me to pursue

  • becoming a doctor.

  • I am not religious and don't believe in the supernatural — I simply chose to believe

  • a story that would benefit me.

  • The alternative would be to tell myself that I was super unlucky, life isn't fair, and

  • I'm doomed to always be at a disadvantage compared to my healthy peers.

  • You could argue the validity of either narrative, but you, and you alone, are completely in

  • control of deciding which one to believe.

  • Any time I was faced with something particularly challenging, I revisited mywhy”.

  • Any time doubt entered my head, either through me second guessing myself or someone else

  • being doubtful of me, my inner dialogue was alwayswatch me.”

  • Driven by my why, I was empowered to take on an identity of being able to do things

  • not in spite of, but because of my illness.

  • My weakness was turned into strength, and I became far more effective rather than less.

  • Many students, in particular due to their young age, are impressionable and exhibit

  • a high need for approval from others.

  • Our fear of failure is often times rooted in a fear of being judged, ostracized, or

  • being an outsider to your peers or friend groups.

  • Once you find yourwhy”, you'll be able to break free from this limiting mindset.

  • You don't need approval from othersyou only need approval from yourself with the

  • belief that you are doing the right thing.

  • Step five, it's time to revisit our systems and improve them to avoid repeating the same

  • mistakes that led to failure.

  • Remember, how we frame our perspectives and stories is critical.

  • Starting off with calling your systems doomed or a lost causes isn't going to bring you

  • any closer to success.

  • The beautiful things about failures is that this is a prime opportunity to reflect and

  • improve.

  • When things are smooth sailing, there's little incentive pushing you to make drastic

  • change and improvementsit simply requires too much effort.

  • But when fecal matter hits the fan, you're in a position to make significant improvements.

  • Use this opportunity to your advantage.

  • When you're backed into a corner, or when you've hit rock bottom, you'll be surprised

  • with what you can accomplish, but only if you allow yourself to.

  • First you'll assess your current systems for what works and what doesn't, then adapt

  • them to maximize the upside and minimize the downside, and then implement these changes

  • in a structured system that will facilitate the outcomes you desire.

  • When assessing your systems, ask yourself: “What can I learn from this recent failure?”

  • What assumptions do I believe that may not be true?”

  • What have I been unwilling to do that, if done, would prevent repeating the same

  • mistakes?”

  • When adapting your systems, focus on how you can create the incentives and structures that

  • bring about the changes you desire.

  • When implementing your changes, don't rely on your brain to remember to do something.

  • Use tools like your calendar, todo list, or set up methods of accountability to keep you

  • on track.

  • Now you're feeling motivated, but more importantly you have a plan.

  • Do not fail to take action on your newfound plan.

  • Starting is the hardest part, and inaction can lead to a deadly downward spiral.

  • Whether or not the failure at hand is your fault is not important.

  • What is important is that you take responsibility for the situation.

  • Taking responsibility empowers you to do something about it, rather than being a victim to the

  • circumstances, and that requires taking action.

  • If you don't feel like getting started, start anyway.

  • Motivation doesn't always have to precede action.

  • Forcing yourself to take action can actually foster motivation, which results in further

  • action.

  • If you're still struggling, watch my video on how to cure procrastination in 7 steps.

  • Link in the description below.

  • Congratulations.

  • You've made it to the last step.

  • It's not abnormal for you to feel down from time to time, even after completing steps

  • one through six.

  • Despite emotional fluctuations or other bumps in the road, consistently executing on your

  • plan will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

  • While your confidence may be shaken by the recent failure, you can build it back up by

  • building positive momentum, one day at a time.

  • Each small win boosts your confidence further, allowing you to take on increasingly challenging

  • endeavors.

  • Failure is inevitable, but you don't have to get back up on your own.

  • Maybe you aren't getting the scores you want in class or on the MCAT, or perhaps you

  • failed to get accepted to medical school.

  • Our team at Med School Insiders has helped countless students drastically improve their

  • MCAT and Step 1 scores, and even helped students with 3 years of rejections get accepted.

  • Med School Insiders is innovating and turning the tutoring and admissions consulting industry

  • upside down.

  • If you work with us, you'll always get a phenomenal advisor.

  • How do we do it?

  • Simple.

  • As you can probably tell, I'm obsessive about optimizing systems and processes.

  • Together, with my team, we've painstakingly optimized our internal processes to guarantee

  • the best service, every single time.

  • From recruiting top talent to innovative incentivization structures and continuous quality improvement,

  • our obsession with perfecting our systems is the secret to the Med School Insiders difference.

  • Don't believe me?

  • Our results speak for themselves.

  • We have industry leading satisfaction scores and our students' success is second to none.

  • Visit MedSchoolInsiders.com to learn more.

  • If you're in the midst of failure right now, I wish you the best of luck.

  • Let me know what specific questions or future video topics you'd like me to cover in the

  • comments down below.

  • Much love to you all, and I will see you guys in that next one.

In your path to becoming a future doctor, one thing is for certain.

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