字幕列表 影片播放 列印英文字幕 So last week my buddy Greg moved into a new house and now is throwing a party for the occasion Ploy. What a turnout. But look, I'm here on a mission to read all these people like an open book. Let's find out who's good at communicating and who's not getting the message. We'll start with that girl in the denim jacket sitting on the couch. She's fidgeting, her hands on her knees. It's a clear sign she wants to end the conversation. Too bad the guy next door isn't getting the hint and keeps talking. Oh, there's Dan taking pictures of everyone. He volunteered to be a photographer to get an obvious reason to start talking to people tonight. He's a shy guy, but he's already giving that couple his social media so they can contact him to see the pictures. Great way to get more friends. Let's move on to those two. Chris and Jenny. Her gaze is following an upside down triangle on his face. She looks at one eye than the other and then his mouth. That's why Chris feels like she's really paying attention. I bet he thinks she's a great listener, a different situation is going on with the two women standing in the fireplace. One of them uses the right side up triangle, looking at one eye, the other eye and then her forehead and to sign. She's not into this conversation, and it works. The other woman wraps it up quickly and walks away. Greg is so busy introducing everyone to each other. Well, Mark knows what he's doing. He took a second and notice Emma's eye color. This just the perfect amount of eye contact. M is obviously pleased with her new acquaintance and feels at ease chatting with him. Check out those two guys in the armchairs. Notice how Frank subtly mirrors John's body language. John put an elbow on an arm rest, and Frank did the same. Frank surely knows how to get someone to like you and subconsciously gain their trust. I'd say it's time for me to join a group. Luckily there, feet turned toward me when I walked up. This means I'm welcome and didn't interrupt them at a bad time. If their feet pointed away from me, I've no, it's better to leave. Honestly, Leslie is the funniest. Everyone, including me, keeps laughing at her jobs. And every time laughter breaks out, Leslie turns her gaze to Fred. We all instinctively do it when we like someone. I'm getting hungry. Let's head to the dining room. Oh, Jack and Sir are here. They had a falling out a few days ago, but it's good Jack chose a place next to her instead of sitting across. Sarah is now less likely to start an argument. Lisa just asked Brad to pastor a napkin. She could easily reach it herself, but she met Brad for the first time at this party. And when you ask a new person for a small favor, their brain gets a message. They already like you since they've done something for him. Hey, what's Carl doing behind that huge house plan? Oh, I see. He's rubbing his hands together, and I know why when you exchange a handshake with a new person. Ah, warm hand leaves a good first impression. Nice thinking, Carl. Safer Jessica. She just raised her eyebrows a bit when Greg introduced her Delia. We usually do that instinctively when we see someone we already know. Doing so during the first encounter makes a person feel like there's already an established rapport between YouTube. Oh, dance party breaking out in the yard. Those who don't dance but still feel like talking are trying hard to be heard over the music Onley Josh knows not to cup your hand behind your ear. Instead, press that small cartilage bump on your ear called The Trade Gets to hear someone better, and they won't have to yell. But the music really is too loud. Let's go back inside. New guests have arrived, but not all of them are interested in chitchat. That guy sitting on the couch with his arms and legs crossed, I'd better not strike up a conversation with him. A different case is that woman in the baseball cap. Her posture is very relaxed, arms and legs uncrossed. She's also asking her conversation partner a lot of questions about their work, hobbies, interests, opinions. She knows the trick. We all love talking about ourselves. Emily leaned in to carry and is whispering something in her ear. Carrie then gave her a bad on the back. I bet Emily told her some great secret about herself, even though they just met. This is a great way to make someone new trust you and feel free to open up to you. Hey, I just got complimented on my shirt. We all like compliments and giving them is one of the easiest yet most effective ways to get a conversation flowing. What's the best compliment you ever got? Let me know in the comments below. While you're doing that, here are a few more tips that can help you in your social and professional life. If your job is all about face to face communication, put a mirror behind you at your workplace. This'll make people more agreeable because no one looks good when they're angry or yelling. They'll try to be more friendly and smiling to show you're listening attentively. Repeat what the other person said Before you react, your boss yelled at you in front of everyone that's messed up. Sounds a lot more convincing than just following with a That's messed up. If you feel like there's an argument about to break out, start eating something. It will diffuse the tense atmosphere, since food is a sign of stability and peace for our brains. If you want someone to feel uncomfortable because of some insensitive remarks, maybe start looking at the middle of their forehead or a pie in the face can work to. Just kidding on that one. Don't waste a perfectly good pie on a jerk. If you want someone to do something, give them three options. Save the one you want them to choose as the last that will make them feel like they have freedom of choice. But the most likely pick the last option, since it's the freshest in their mind. If someone's having a joke at your expense, make them feel uneasy by asking them to explain what's so funny about it. Just yelling for help in an emergency usually doesn't work. Instead, we not one person from the crowd to get assistance. For example, you in the green shirt call for help. Hopefully, you're not color blind. If someone tries toe loudly, talk over you. Just keep talking without raising your voice or changing its tone exactly like you were before the interruption. Bell feel awkward and will probably back down if you want others to agree with you slightly not and maintain eye contact while you're speaking. Nodding means everything I'm saying is true, so people will believe you. So try this out at your next social gathering and let me know how it goes. Hey, if you learned something new today, then give the video alike and share it with a friend. 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