字幕列表 影片播放 列印英文字幕 I think that I and I assume millions of others of my generation wanted some of the things that we did for our children and our wives and ourselves. Was explained by the fact that we were products of what is called the depression. Sadly, they say many young people today don't even know what that term means. It means that everybody was poor. Statistically almost everybody was poor for about 10 years. Starting with the stock market crush and got worse after that. And when you're really poor for a long time you're a very different human being than when you're middle class or rich. At one point, if they got only one point. I ran away from home. I was 16 at the time. I bummed around the country for a few weeks. And I literally faced severe hunger. I had seven dollars, they lasted exactly seven days. After that, no money and pretty quickly that converts into no food. If you knew where there was a soup kitchen, I guess you could go there, but I didn't know about that, I was on the road I didn't know where I was much less where other things were. I would beg. Very quickly, you turn into a beggar. You might think you would never do that, but you're wrong. All you have to do is get hungry enough and you beg your brains out. It's the conventional dialogue that you saw on movies. Hey Mark can you spare a dime or you know, you got a quarter you're not using? I could use it. And by large, you get ignored or you get contempt. The only people who ever treated me cool, not the only people, but almost the only people who ever treated me kindly were the Mexican Americans I ran into in the South Western states. One guy I remembered opened his own pockets showed me they were empty and he shrugged. I like that we had a nice moment together because he was saying, I'm no better off than you are. Another man said, wait Sinor and he went into a little hovel railey and came out with a tortilla full of beans. I loved him for that. And there was a nice attitude when I asked a Mexican if he had anything that I could eat or money to buy it with or whatever. My fellow Anglos by a large treated me coldly and rudely. I ate garbage at one point. You will do that too and you'll thank the universe for the garbage. Boy what a thrill, here I found a can with some beans in it. I scooped out the ants, blew them away and then I ate the nine or ten beans I found there. Boy was I happy to find those beans. I was eating garbage and thrilled to do it. So, that's very different from the life that we know and since some of us had been through that, that we wanted to be sure that our children never went through that. So, we tried to build up the little bank accounts and get a car for the wife and a car for us. Wash the you know, cars ourselves with the horse with the kids. There are many sweet beautiful aspects of that. The best scene of all really is family life. Why our society insist on making heroes men or women out of people who can't stay married and have had 19 women. God is that a stupid reversion of values. Having one wife, staying married to her that's what we're supposed to do. It works out better with the kids. But the American home began to fall apart I think seriously partly because of effects of world war two in the 1950's. That's when the divorce explosion as it's called began. As to what I wanted for my kids there was on one side the economic security that they would have enough cloths, enough food, and roof over their head so that you know, be able to go to school, and have a bike and all those simple things. Unfortunately, well, I succeed in that in regard for them. I would not grade myself terribly high as a father might. My sons are kind enough to say complimentary things about me as a father, but I was very far from satisfied with myself as I look back at my role in that particular drama. I have been arguing ever since that. Our culture and society is very good at training people. We train them to pull teeth, to repair automobiles, to paint fences, to do brain surgery. We give them no training literally and the two most important roles they will ever be called upon to play marriage partner and parent and that you're just thrown into the water, hope you can swim. Oh, I'm sorry you're getting divorced, well, your children are sick. And it's happening now in probably half the cases of marriage in this country. It's an ongoing tragedy. I can see now that anybody and certainly myself included, since I'm a body need training of just a book anything, a magazine article, a priest talking to you on a park be it something, we needed to be told how to be a father for the man and how to be a husband. Nobody ever explained anything to me. I hadn't seen any example of my own life. My father died when I was an infant. So, there was no example and I simply never learned it. So, I was finally able to piece myself together and be a good father to my fourth son, but I don't think I was that great a father. I love my three sons, the first three dearly, still do, we get along great. But I thought all you had to do was love them, occasionally mention that fact to them, give them a hug once in a while after they you know, at least up to the age of seven or eight and that was basically all there was to it. And boy was I wrong. You have to spend much time with them. You probably have noticed that either in the 60's or a 1,000 years from now or last night, the sons of public figures, sons and daughters of public figures have a decided disadvantage, whether those public figures are presidents or senators or movie actors or rock stars. The reason is very simple, daddy is on the road a lot. He's out campaigning for office. He's doing a concert in Nashville. And suddenly he looks over his shoulder and oh, junior is on dope. Well, maybe the fact that I didn't see him that much from two to fourteen had something to do with that. You bet it did.