the whole purpose of life was pursuing happiness.

Everyone said the path to happiness was success,

人人都說，成功是通往快樂的路，

that perfect boyfriend, that beautiful apartment.

And I wasn&#39;t alone; my friends -- they struggled with this, too.

且不只有我這樣；我的朋友們── 他們也有這種困擾。

Eventually, I decided to go to graduate school for positive psychology

我最後決定去研究所讀正向心理學，

But what I discovered there changed my life.

但我在那兒的發現， 改變了我的人生。

The data showed that chasing happiness can make people unhappy.

資料顯示，追求快樂會讓人不快樂。

the suicide rate has been rising around the world,

and it recently reached a 30-year high in America.

最近在美國達到三十年來的新高。

Even though life is getting objectively better

從每個能想到的標準來看皆是如此，

There&#39;s an emptiness gnawing away at people,

and you don&#39;t have to be clinically depressed to feel it.

並不需被臨床診斷出沮喪 也能感覺到這個現象。

我想，遲早我們都會想要知道：

And according to the research, what predicts this despair

And what&#39;s the difference between being happy

Many psychologists define happiness as a state of comfort and ease,

許多心理學家把快樂定義為 一種舒服自在的狀態，

The renowned psychologist Martin Seligman says

知名心理學家馬丁賽里格曼說，

meaning comes from belonging to and serving something beyond yourself

意義來自歸屬感、致力於 超越自我之外的事物，

以及從內在發展出最好的自己。

我們的文化對「快樂」相當癡迷，

but I came to see that seeking meaning is the more fulfilling path.

但我發現，尋找意義才是 更讓人滿足的道路。

And the studies show that people who have meaning in life,

他們在學校及職場的表現較佳，

我們每個人要如何活得有意義？

To find out, I spent five years interviewing hundreds of people

為了找出答案，我花了五年時間，訪談了數百人，

and reading through thousands of pages of psychology,

I found that there are what I call four pillars of a meaningful life.

我發現了一件事，我稱之為「人生意義的四大支柱」。

我們可以在彼此的人生中找到人生的意義，

by building some or all of these pillars in our lives.

Belonging comes from being in relationships

where you&#39;re valued for who you are intrinsically

一種你與他人在本質上 彼此是否處在

But some groups and relationships deliver a cheap form of belonging;

但有些群體或關係， 提供的是廉價形式的歸屬感；

你被重視的原因 是因為你所相信的事物、

它存在於個體間共處的時光當中，

and it&#39;s a choice -- you can choose to cultivate belonging with others.

且它是一種選擇── 你可以選擇與他人培養歸屬感。

Each morning, my friend Jonathan buys a newspaper

每天早晨，我在紐約的朋友強納森

都會向同一個街頭小販買一份報紙。

They don&#39;t just conduct a transaction, though.

不過，他們並不是只有交易的關係。

他們會停下來，花點時間說說話，

But one time, Jonathan didn&#39;t have the right change,

但有一次，強納森的零錢不夠，

so he went to the store and bought something he didn&#39;t need

所以他去一家店， 買了他不需要的東西，

But when he gave the money to the vendor,

I think we all reject people in small ways like this without realizing it.

我想，我們都曾像這樣在小地方 拒絕別人卻沒有意識到。

I&#39;ll walk by someone I know and barely acknowledge them.

我會從認識的人旁邊走過， 卻沒跟他們打招呼。

I&#39;ll check my phone when someone&#39;s talking to me.

當有人在跟我說話時，我會看手機。

這類行為是在貶低別人的價值，

They make them feel invisible and unworthy.

讓他們覺得自己是 隱形的、不值得的。

But when you lead with love, you create a bond

但若用愛來引導， 你就會創造出一種聯結，

For many people, belonging is the most essential source of meaning,

對很多人來說，歸屬感是 人生意義的重要來源，

就是與家人及朋友之間的聯結。

For others, the key to meaning is the second pillar: purpose.

對其他人來說， 第二根人生意義的支柱是目的。

Now, finding your purpose is not the same thing

as finding that job that makes you happy.

Purpose is less about what you want than about what you give.

目的的重點是你能給予什麼， 而不是你想要什麼。

A hospital custodian told me her purpose is healing sick people.

一位醫院管理員告訴我， 她的目的是治癒生病的人。

「我的目的是扶養我的孩子。」

The key to purpose is using your strengths to serve others.

目標的關鍵在於 用你的力量去服務他人。

Of course, for many of us, that happens through work.

當然，對很多人而言， 這是透過工作來達成的。

That&#39;s how we contribute and feel needed.

那是我們做出貢獻和 感到被需要的方式。

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