In order to survive in the world, we have little option but to spend our lives being rather defended—that is, at one remove from our more vulnerable sides, closed off from certain emotions, focused in many cases on not feeling.

為了在這個世界上生存，我們別無選擇，只能花費生命來保持防禦姿態——也就是說，與我們較脆弱的一面保持距離，關閉某些情緒，在許多情況下專注於不感受。