it is my privilege to help people  explore their inner worlds,

我有這個榮幸，來幫人們探索個人的內在世界

Hour after hour, I hear thoughts, emotions, feelings.

無數個小時，我聽著人們的想法、情緒、感覺

what is it that emotionally  paralyzes us.

到底是什麼，使我們因為情緒而癱瘓

How is it that we may thrive  at this thing called life?

該如何將人生這樁大事，營造地豐沛多彩

In voices that are awashed with need and ablazed with yearning,

在這些充溢著渴望、燃燒著期盼的聲音裡

我的相談者邀請我 深入他們的個人歷程

They tell me stories of love, loss, hidden fears and deepest desires.

訴說著他們的愛、失落 隱藏的恐懼和最深的渴望

And let me tell you, inevitably these stories turn to childhood.

可以告訴大家 這些故事都難免指向童年經歷

They speak of a common theme, a similar rhythm.

他們會以類似的語調，談論常見的主題

They speak of a hunger that only a parent can appease,

他們會提到一些 只有父母才能安撫的盼望

of a thirst  that only a parent can quench.

this tall strapping man  in his mid forty&#39;s,

來了一個40多歲，魁梧高大的男性

his particularly difficult  relationship with his father.

該如何面對，他和父親之間關係的困境

Yes, we grapple with problems  of our childhood long into adulthood.

沒錯，我們從小到大都在和問題搏鬥

And he said to me, in a voice that turned plaintive,

他開口對我說，聲音變得有些哀淒

he said, &quot;Will I ever meet my father&#39;s expectations?

他說:「我到底能不能達成我父親的期待? 」

Will he ever accept the man I&#39;ve become today?

「他會不會肯定我現在的成就? 」

Or will I always be a no-good loser?&quot;

「 還是我在他眼中，永遠都是輸家? 」

He was seeking, searching, yearning for an approval

And what about the woman in her thirty’s,

she screamed,  &quot;What is wrong with me?

You tell me it&#39;s because my father overdose when I was 4,

「你說這是因為，我四歲時父親用藥過度」

「但這個痛苦什麼時候才會減輕? 」

And the woman  who picks on her skin constantly,

還有一個女性，經常挑抓自己的皮膚

She said, &quot;These,&quot; pointing  to the rageful scars on her body,

她指著身上憤怒的傷疤，對我說:

&quot;These began the day  after my mom said

「我爸是因為我，才離開我們的」

&quot;Help me!&quot;, each one of them silently shouts at me,

他們都無聲地呼喊著:「幫幫我 !」

Am I my whole, am I worthy, do I matter?&quot;

「我完整嗎? 我有價值嗎? 我重要嗎?」

Because they&#39;ve internalized another voice, you see,

因為他們已經內化了另一種聲音

就是早期的時候，他們父母說的話

現在，我們想要抹去這個第一印記

It runs wild, rampant,  chaotic, unpredictable.

它卻變的狂野、猖獗、混亂、不可預測

It comes to be the way  we define ourselves.

Parents, few hold a greater power or more immense responsibility.

很少有比父母親職 更任重道遠的人生角色

這就是為什麼，我今天要在這裡提議

to propose that we occupy the role of parenthood

in an entirely different way, with a renewed curiosity,

用全然不同的方式、嶄新的好奇心

a heightened awareness, a transformed commitment.

用更全觀的意識、轉變昇華的力量來投入

that needs to be at the forefront of our global consciousness.

它必須站在全球共同意識的第一線

這是神聖的召喚，是事情的關鍵

that affects how our children will thrive.

這影響到，我們的孩子怎麼營造生命

Everything: how they take care  of themselves, each other,

這影響廣泛: 他們怎麼自立、互助

怎麼關愛地球環境、展現同情心

tolerate differences, handle their emotions,

This is where global  transformation begins.

We cannot expect our children  to embody an enlightened consciousness

我們不能期待孩子們形成開明的意識

if we parents haven&#39;t dared  to model this ourselves.

Our children are facing challenges today that we couldn&#39;t have dreamed of.

孩子們今天面臨我們無法想像的挑戰

And evidence suggests that  they are buckling under the pressure.

很多證據都說明 他們已經被壓得喘不過氣來了

shows sign or symptoms of a psychological disorder.

Two years ago, there were over  662,000 children in America

兩年前，全美有超過66萬2千名兒童

The use of ADHD drugs is on an exponential high.

過動症藥物的使用率，以等比級數創新高

聯合國兒童基金會 數年前進行的一項研究

居全球兒童不快樂排行榜的第二名

There was a study done in the UK  of 30,000 children,

英國針對三萬名兒童做的另一項研究

and it was reported that one in ten, over the age of 8,

顯示超過八歲的兒童，有十分之一

reported being unhappy on a consistent basis.

We need to sit up, pay attention and raise our children differently.

我們必須起而正視問題 改變我們教養的方式

Now, of course, parental influence  isn&#39;t the only factor at play.

父母當然不是影響孩子的唯一因素

and chaotic influences  in our children&#39;s life

令人困惑、相衝突、混亂的影響

There&#39;s neurobiology,  there&#39;s temperament,

還有神經生物學上的因素、個人特質

there&#39;s social pressures,  there&#39;s poverty.

我們可以批評精神病理學、抨擊教育

but our influence in these spheres is relatively limited.

但在這些領域 我們能著力的地方相對有限

But let me tell you where we hold  indubitable power.

但是各位，我們確實能夠著力的地方

That is in the relationship we nurture with our children.

就是我們教養子女時的親子關係

Our children and us, moment after moment after moment.

孩子和我們 共同度過許多小小的人生片刻

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