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Friendships are great. They add value and beauty to life. At least, true friendships do.

友誼是很棒的東西，它們為生活增添了價值和美感，至少真正的友誼是這樣啦。

Fake friends are destructive. They are also sometimes hard to recognize. You can have a friend for years before realizing they are not sincere.

但虛假的朋友是有破壞性的，它們有時也很難認清。你可能在多年之後才發現你的朋友一點都不真誠。

Here are 6 signs someone is a fake friend:

No. 1: they use you and then disappear when you need them.

第ㄧ，他們會利用你，但你需要他們的時候就消失。

You can recognize a fake friend by them often taking advantage of you.

你可以透過他們經常利用你的方式認清虛假的朋友。

Do you have a friend that calls you only when they need a favor?

你有沒有一個只在他們有需要的時候才會聯絡你的朋友呢？

You haven't heard from them for over a month and one day they call and ask if you can help them move. This is a clear sign you have a fake friend that doesn't want your company. He or she just wants to use you.

明明好幾個月沒有他們的消息，但是突然有一天他們卻打電話來並詢問你能不能幫他們搬家。這很明顯你交到一個不需要你陪伴的虛假朋友，他或她只是想利用你。

And when you need a favor, they are most likely to make some lame excuse, either their mother asked them to have dinner with her, or they are "simply swamped" the day you asked them to drive you to the airport.

而當你需要幫忙時，他們很可能會找一些蹩腳的藉口，要麽是他們的媽媽請他們和她共度晚飯，要麽是在你要他們開車送你去機場的那一天他們「忙得不可開交」。

They see your need as a nuisance because they are not your true friend.

他們認為你的需求很麻煩，因為他們不是你真正的朋友。

They just wanna get the most of they can out of you and give you nothing back in return.

他們只想從你身上撈到最大的好處，卻不給你任何回報。

No. 2: they are secretly competing with you.

You and your friend have a secret competition going on that you might not be aware of.

你跟你的朋友可能在暗中較勁，但你自己卻渾然不知。

They're unhealthily competitive with you and always try to outrun you every chance they get.

他們與你的競爭非常不健康，而且總是試圖在每一個機會中超越你。

Sure, they might seem happy for you, but they will always find a subtle way to dampen your spirits.

當然，他們看起來可能是在為你開心，但他們總能找到一種微妙的方式來潑你冷水。

Every achievement you make is a challenge to them, not a success they should celebrate with you.

你獲得的每一項成就對他們來說都是一種挑戰，而不是應該和你一起慶祝的成功。

If you talk about your raise, they will try to top that and talk about how they are earning much more money than you from the start; if you buy a new phone, they will  buy a better one.

如果你談到你加薪，他們就會試圖超越這一點，並談論他們如何從一開始就賺到比你還要多的錢； 如果你買一部新手機，他們就會買更好的。

If you take up a new hobby, they will take it up, too with the exclusive intention of becoming better at it than you, and if they can't be better than you, they will spoil your excitement.

如果你培養了一個新的興趣，他們也會抱持著要超越你的唯一目的來培養新的興趣，如果他們沒辦法比你更好，他們就會破壞你的樂趣。

They always try to downplay your success and act envious whenever good things happen to you.

當好事發生在你身上時，他們總是會試圖貶低你的成功並表現出嫉妒。

True friends will always be happy for you because they value your happiness as much as their own; fake friends always want to be better than you.

真正的朋友永遠都會為你高興，因為他們對你的幸福和自己的幸福一樣重視，但虛假的朋友總是想比你好。

No. 3: they get defensive if you tell them they upset you.

第三，如果你告訴他們，他們讓你生氣，他們就會變得很有戒心。

When you tell a true friend that they did something that upset you, they will apologize and try to correct it.

當你告訴一個真正的朋友他們做了讓你不高興的事情時，他們會道歉並試圖糾正它。

But, if you tell a fake friend the same thing, they will get overly defensive to the point where they may even attack you in return.

但是，同樣的事情告訴虛假的朋友，他們會變得過度有戒心，甚至可能反過來攻擊你。

You will hear something along the lines of "How dare you even think that hideous thing" or "What kind of a person do you think I am."

你會聽到類似「你怎麼會有那種糟糕的想法」或「你以為我是一個什麼樣的人」之類的話。

They will even start fabricating lies to make you feel like you're the one who's in the wrong, and then stop talking to you for a while. This is because they don't care about you or what they did wrong to you.

他們甚至會開始編造謊言，讓你覺得自己錯了，然後有一段時間都不跟你說話，這是因為他們不在乎你或是他們對你做錯了什麼。

One big telltale sign that someone is a fake friend is that they are very egocentric.

虛假朋友有一個很明顯的跡就是他們非常以自我為中心。

Everything has to be about them and they will not be all that interested in what you are talking about.

一切都要有關他們，而且他們對你說的事情並沒有那麼感興趣。

Do you have a friend that just doesn't listen to you?

They perhaps tap away on their phone while you're talking or they change the subject.

他們可能會在你說話的時候滑手機，或是轉移話題。

They look bored until you start talking about something related to them.

在你談到有關他們的事情以前都會表現得很無趣。

They rarely ask how you are doing or what's going on in your life.

他們幾乎不會問你過得好不好或是最近發生了什麼事。

Another sign they don't care and don't listen to you is that they will rarely mention something you've told them in the past.

另一個他們不在乎也不會傾聽的跡象是，他們幾乎不會提及你之前對他們說過的事情。

You will not hear them say things like "Let's go watch that comedy movie because I remember you said you like comedy." Or "I made these cookies without peanuts because I remember you told me you were allergic."

你不會聽到他們說：「我們去看那部喜劇電影吧，因為我記得你說過你喜歡喜劇。」 或者「我做的這些餅乾都沒有花生，因為我記得你說過你會過敏。」

They're clearly selfish and self-centered, and there is no place for you in their lives.

他們很明顯自私又自我為中心，在他們的生命中並沒有包含你。

第五，他們的友誼是有條件的。

Sincere friends love you and stick with you no matter what. On the other hand, the friendship of a fake friend is always conditional.

真誠的朋友很愛你，而且無論發生什麼都會和你在一起，但另一方面，與虛假朋友之間的友誼總是有條件的。

You are friends, but there are conditions; conditions are often standards that they expect you to adhere to.

你是朋友，但是有條件的，而條件通常是他們希望你遵守的標準。

A conditional friendship is when your friend expects you to behave the certain way, dress the way they want, make a certain amount of money if you wanna be their friend.

有條件的友誼是，當你的朋友希望你以某種方式表現，按照他們想要的方式穿著，如果你想成為他們的朋友，就得賺到一定的錢。

If you have a friend that won't be your friend unless you're wealthy or famous, that's a conditional friendship.

如果你有一個除非你很有錢或很有名，否則他不會與你交友的朋友，那就是有條件的友誼。

Or they'll be your friend as long as you behave the way they want, and if you change and don't behave or do as they demand, they will resent you or even abandon you without a moment's notice.

或者，只要你按照他們想要的方式表現，他們就會成為你的朋友，但如果你改變且不按照他們的要求，他們會怨恨你，甚至會毫不猶豫地拋棄你。

Real friends always support you; fake friends don't miss a chance to put you down. They insult you or belittle you and your success.

真正的朋友永遠支持你；虛假的朋友不會錯過貶低你的機會，他們侮辱你或貶低你和你的成就。

Nothing you do is good enough for them; your graduation is nothing special or your promotion is undeserved.

對他們來說你永遠不夠好，像是你的畢業沒什麼特別的，或者是覺得你根本不值得升遷。

They are constantly criticizing you for no other reason than to make you feel bad about yourself.

他們不斷地批評你，只是為了讓你對自己感覺不好。

They may make it sound like playful teasing but it is obvious that they really mean it.

他們可能聽起來像是在開玩笑，但很明顯他們是認真的。

They also don't stop even when you complain about it.

即使你抱怨，他們也不會停止。

They may even take the opportunity to put you down once more by pointing out that you are too sensitive or even weak.

他們甚至可能藉此機會指出你太敏感甚至軟弱，從而再次貶低你。

True friends will never do anything to hurt you purposely because they genuinely care about you; fake friends don't value you, so they have no problem with putting you  down.

真正的朋友永遠不會故意傷害你，因為他們真的很關心你； 虛假的朋友不看重你，所以他們不在意貶低你。

If you've had a fake friend before, how did you recognize it? Share your story with us in the comment section.

如果你曾交過虛假的朋友，那你是怎麼認清的呢？在評論區與我們分享你的故事。

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在你離開之前如果能給我們一個讚的話，我們團隊會非常開心的。

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記得要訂閱，並開起小鈴鐺，這樣我們發布新影片時你就會收到通知了。

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